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Whenever I say that I have 3 children, the astonishment is almost general. I’ve been called so many things … Courageous, crazy, adventurous, clueless and so many other things (some cool and some not so much because people love to take care of other people’s lives). But there are things behind triple motherhood that nobody talks about! When I had 2 children still, the burden was very great for many people:
Stopped there right? Did the factory close? Did you have surgery? Husband operated?
Behold, I got pregnant for the third time, I chose to tell only to family and closest friends and, when my belly of the third child started to point, the comments started and this time much more aggressive. The indignation of others took over the situation, but you know what? I didn’t even care. My children were all planned, although the last pregnancy was a bit of a surprise, it wasn’t a slip, my mother’s heart had two loves, but it still wasn’t enough, I wanted one more love for life . I was happy and very well with my decision of a large family for the current conditions. What I didn’t know was the challenges that would still come during pregnancy.
Physical part
Despite being very happy with another miracle on the way, the third pregnancy was different. I felt greater discomfort, the pains became more intense (muscle, sciatica, scars from other caesarean sections stretching), stitched in the Netherlands. It was practically impossible to walk during muscle puncture attacks in the pelvic area, but the bug caught it was to hold the pee inside the bladder lol!
It was a run without size for the bathroom, and the change of panties became a constant during pregnancy. Although I wanted to adapt myself to the use of the daily protector, due to medical advice, I could not enjoy this benefit, so I can say that I literally had my bladder loose! It seems that the pregnant woman’s perineum for the third time, looks more like a faucet with worn leather , never dripping again.
After delivery, my body changed completely. This time, at 30, the recovery was a little more delicate and long. I felt that even though everything was fine at delivery, my body was no longer 20 years old. So it took me about 10 more days to be ready compared to the same time as the first postpartum. Breastfeeding was not so complicated, but it was still a novelty, as was the first feeding of the first child. Challenges when we meet a new person, you know? The belly gradually decreased, more slowly, but in compensation, the bleeding stopped much earlier than expected.
Postpartum immediately after cesarean was more complicated, I had more side effects than the previous times. The dizziness was immense, but it resolved itself after a few hours. The problem was keeping pace with the children as they grew up. Now there are 3 colleague! Be willing to accompany everyone and everyone wanting specific attention for their age. I confess that tiredness is chronic, a constant mouth opening throughout the day, and at night? A via crucis to put the whole class to sleep at the right time.
In other respects, chasing a one-year-old baby is not easy in any situation, but for a mother with a gut dose, it can be quite a complicated mission! That’s why I don’t deny help, no way! Mother-in-law, sister-in-law, sister, friends … Everyone got into the dance! But as time passed it became easier and easier, and love grew more and more like the mother’s heart!
The Emotional of a Mother of Three
Now realized, happy and with the dream of a big family realized, it was time to catch up on the emotional. How to deal with the arrival of another child at home and with the feeling that all this change brings? Although it seems simple, it is not. The older children feel that that little being who just arrived, steals all the attention from everyone around, can and will greatly affect the dynamics of the family. However, the stage deserves preparation even during pregnancy. Talking a lot with the older children, saying what he will do for the baby and especially, putting all these plans into practice from the first day of birth is essential.
The mother will always have the baby blues, a sadness due to the hormonal drop, but it is perfectly normal to think that she will not be able to handle all the work that 3 children do. As they said, a mother of 3 is truly brave because it is not easy to deal with so many strong emotions lol. However, the love that is returned is immensely greater than all the little problems of everyday life.
What is Being a Mother of 3?
Being a triple dose mother means having your heart beating out of your chest 3 times. And cry and laugh in triple doses and receive love, love and love. It means having joy for life, a full house all the time. It means having three times as many clothes to wash and iron, to go 3x more to the supermarket and of course, to spend three times with school, food, clothes and shoes. However, everything is a reward, there is no substitute for having a room full of joy on rainy days, although fights always happen, you can take the letter. Forgive me, forgive me, but being a mother of 3 is for the strong, only those who do not have the ability to be strong as a rock and receive love like no one else declines from this mission.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
