Being a good mother can be as relative as are the principles that a family decides to adopt to educate their children! I’m not going to judge here, much less give lessons on how to be a good mother, as that would be the same thing as wanting to impose on the other person your opinion of how your birth should be. However, there are ways to transform yourself into a good mother, not the kind of margarine commercial, the perfect woman who wakes up at 6:00 am to make that plentiful and impeccable coffee table for the family, always in a good mood, without being lazy or even lazy. tired even after a little night and bad sleep due to having to take care of the small baby. If I were to depend on it to be considered a good mother by society, I was fried! I’m normal, I wake up disheveled, with breath and sometimes in a good mood, although sometimes I need pharmacological help to keep my sanity in the midst of so many daily chores and still manage my house, husband, three children, work and even two dogs .
The responsibility of educating and transforming people into excellent citizens is not a simple task, not people! How to be a good mother nowadays, when a woman is practically forced to work outside to help support her children? Should I be an exemplary mother to abandon everything else in order to dedicate myself exclusively to the shoots? How to give a better life, better conditions so that children can study and have everything they need, not let them suffer from anything?
It is really difficult to have to handle everything and still maintain a good mood! Nowadays the charge is even higher on the part of the children in material terms, because their friends have this, they have that and, we feel guilty for not being able to give the same, the top of the top. But why would addressing this consumer need make me a good mother? Why do we charge ourselves so much in the material part, when in our childhood there was nothing about tablets, internet, computers and the like but we still have several good memories? Would a latest model cell phone be a better companion for my children than mine? I think there are some distorted values that we are not even aware of because consumerism has become very normal, and perhaps because of the cable TV advertising that we pay to entertain our children …
How to be a good mother starts from the basic principle of the very education she received from her parents, which, together with the teachings that her husband or father of the children received, can be applied in this journey so intense that it is having children. Being a good mother on a general principle is caring, feeding, protecting and loving. But saying no also makes you a good mother! Imposing limits, scolding, scolding is also showing how good a mother you are. If you can’t afford to give your 5-year-old son a mega cell phone or a powerful computer, don’t blame yourself! It is best to teach the value of money and put the hotshot inside the domestic finances. Teaching the value of things from an early age can contribute to the child being more aware and also less dazzled, happier!
Limitations of a Woman Seeking How to Be a Good Mother
The limitations of a mother when she is not 100% dedicated to the education of her children, may be greater than you think. I myself suffer from blaming myself for not being able to attend all school meetings, for not packing my backpack every night. But one thing I insist on, look at all the lessons daily, to see if they are all done and ok. Monitoring children’s growth is pleasurable, but as long as we have time set aside for that. For me what matters is the quality of being, it does not mean that a mother who doesn’t have time from Monday to Friday to help with the lesson, is a terrible mother, but as far as possible being on top of all the children’s activities can transform you in a good mother, or at least ease the feeling of lack of children and guilt that surrounds this woman.
Being a good mother is also guiding your children from all the dangers that life brings, such as bad company and of course, drugs that are there for those who want to see and try. Showing them that the difference between good and bad is a fine line, will let them know how to make the right choices for themselves. But of course, a mother who is a mother will always worry!
Through my daily follies, I see that I am far from becoming a mother of margarine commercials, but I am closer to the mother that I idealized for my children, even before I had them. I make mistakes every day and learn every day, I get it right too, but I’m still learning. 13 years ago I became a mother, I consider myself new to the subject and I learn every day that I spend with my children and with my mother to be a good mother, however, I feel free to give advice to those who live intensely in the world of motherhood : Be yourself! I am myself and it has worked …
Being a mother is suffering in paradise and still smiling, but it is not perfection as a margarine commercial!
Don’t try to be the mother that many idealize! Do the things you think is best and without this fashion, fashion of that … How to be a good mother? Always do your best and listen to your children!I learned to listen to what they want, and put it into practice if possible, within our conditions and limitations, whether financial or time, sentimental, etc. Without absurd stereotypical parameters or models like Doriana’s commercial mothers, perfection doesn’t exist! We are human and with good and bad days like anyone else. What irritates me are the mother of child characters, like Mama Pig for example, who lets her children wallow in the mud and just laughs all the time! What mother is like that? Sure, getting dirty is good, but washing mud-soaked clothes every day? I don’t like it and judge me for it!
Be the mother of your dreams or close to her and consider her a good size. Your children will thank you and you will blame yourself less. Say no when necessary and try to do what you think is right, when you think it is right and everything will be fine. In doubt yet? If you mirror your mother, mother-in-law or friend who you admire a lot, but be aware that each mother will do the best for her children, regardless of the reality she has at home, work outside or not, you will be the mother she has to be! Delete what does not serve you and take only what is good in you, especially in maternity.
See also: I want to be a mother – am I ready?
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.