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In the midst of constant social changes, people’s behavior when it comes to family formation also changes. In Brazil and in the world, couples who choose marital union are increasingly common, but decide together which is the best option for both: to have or not to have children?
Data provided by the Applied Economic Survey (Ipea) with the National Survey by Household Sample (Pnad), from IBGE, the number of couples without children increased from 13.5% to 18.8% in a period of ten years.
Whether or not having children is no longer a decision that comes from social pressures, this is mainly due to changes in the female professional field . Today women are as responsible for household finances as men, and there is not always time for both to invest psychologically and emotionally in the father sector.
Main Reasons for Not Having Children?
Increase two Expenses
In the midst of the complicated financial scenario in Brazil, this is one of the main reasons mentioned. Having a child requires good financial preparation to meet the child’s needs, which are not few. The expenses will occur from the moment you receive the news of the pregnancy and you can believe this will only be the beginning, a lot of investment will come ahead.
Fear of Childbirth and Physical Transformations
Just thinking about the pain of childbirth or the possibility, many women shudder about it. Not only are the pains and contractions frightening, but the sudden changes that occur in the female body. Weight gain, some stretch marks and flaccidity are the result of motherhood and this amazes many women.
Will I be a Good Mother or Father?
The couple who choose not to have a child questions themselves in the face of the situation. Paternity is not only made of financial preparation, but mainly emotional and psychological disposition. With the growing demand for responsibility in the professional field and the daily struggle against time to fulfill commitments, many couples wonder if they will have time, emotional and physical availability to meet the needs that are important to educate and train a child.
Prioritize the Professional Field
As said, children require time and dedication, there are couples who do not believe that the ideal of a family is a good job and finances to pay for a nanny, a good school and courses for the child. As they consider themselves absent and do not have time available, it is quite common for both to decide that the best choice is not to have a baby. In the absence of paternity, they can dedicate themselves completely to the professional field, without any burden on conscience.
End of Social and Sexual Life
Although this is not a rule, it is a justification pointed out by some couples who choose not to have children. Especially after birth, the mother dedicates herself totally to the care of the baby, who usually does not have a regulated routine and can then totally change the daily life of the parents, including their sexual life .
Social life is another recurring concern among couples, as they believe that a child requires specific places and will not be able to take a child to the environments they like and usually go to. When you have a child, their well-being is always a priority for parents and this would hinder their yearning to travel and go to unusual places.
Reasons to Have a Child
Achievement
Even with the countless social changes and the detachment from standards, the dream of having a family with a fatherly presence is still part of the desire and strokes the feeling of many couples. Motivated by the untranslatable feeling of fatherhood and the chance to see the reflection of love in the child, the traditional family is still a reason for happiness and fulfillment.
Enjoy the Children
There are those who love children and want to have their own children. Caring, playing and educating are tasks spontaneously performed by the couple who have this dream and cannot wait for a baby to arrive.
Fear of Repentance
Some couples are unsure of postponing motherhood or simply have no children and then regret it. Old age and the possibility of loneliness in the absence of children and grandchildren makes them both rule out the possibility of not having children, as they believe it is essential for the present and especially the future.
Delivery and Unconditional Love
The desire to see the belly grow and to understand that the person generated depends exclusively on the mother is a unique sensation for the woman. Follow the growth and suddenly notice that the son exactly reproduces some of his customs, traits and personality are special moments to witness how perfect nature and its formation are.
Having a child is not only giving, but also evolving, growing and being a better person from another perspective.
See also: Life Changes With Baby’s Arrival
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
