When we date her, the sex life is intense! The desire is really close to the skin and so is it when newlyweds. As time goes by, that initial excitement is no longer the same, the relationship is stable and the hot nights tend to be more widely spaced. But when are children born? Can you who have no children imagine what the sex life of a woman with children is like? Total chaos!
Children are blessings, inheritances that God sent so that we can learn and care and it is certainly the reason for life. But come and agree, after motherhood, sex life is no longer a priority, and there, you date when your children leave. Seems like an exaggeration doesn’t it? But try to have three creatures fighting over the bed with your husband, or resisting sleeping at the appointed time to get a sense of what it is like. The fact is that children have come to modify for the sake of all aspects of a couple’s life. In addition to men and women, we are now parents and this is a fact that will never change.
At least when they are young, children may be able to draw all of a woman’s energy. Breastfeeding , changing, taking care of, taking care of the house and sometimes of work, are factors that will certainly change the sex life. Often, exhausted and smelling of milk, this woman avoids having sexual contact with her partner. In fact it is not even to avoid, the time that this woman has free only wants two things: Bath and bed (to sleep). Motherhood, despite being beautiful and full of emotions, tires my lady!
After the kids, even a kiss on the mouth gets complicated!
Tiredness can also be from sleepless nights, from baby cramps, from irritation of the teething that is coming out. It may also be due to the baby’s fever or the simple fact of worrying about the child, the mother’s mania. Who never found himself checking that his son was breathing? Dating opportunities become rare , those sudden desires and the opportunity to have intercourse on the sofa in the living room at a time when it pleases becomes a thing of the past, and seems to be so far away … It even misses it!
Now tell me, besides tiredness, what worries you when they grow up a little? The neurosis that they are hearing and seeing, even if in another room and sleeping, becomes a ghost that prowl life together. Husband and wife have to hide and sneak in the dead of night or dawn what they did before even on the kitchen floor in broad daylight! It takes a lot of love and understanding from the husband and wife to stay together. It seems to be absurd, but some men prefer to separate from their partner as soon as they have children, as they cannot stand the wait and pressure of a father’s life. It is much easier to abdicate and give up than to wait to pass a phase as important as the birth of adaptation to the new condition.
In fact, childbirth can also make women stop wanting and sex life can be compromised. Some have problems with hormones after giving birth . I had serious problems myself and only after a hormonal treatment, I returned with the activities. This time demanded a lot from her husband. He had to be patient for a few months but understood perfectly that it was a phase. It is also very important that the woman be attentive, in fact the couple must be attentive to the woman’s lack of desire. If it is prolonged, you should see a doctor, if it is hormonal it can be treated and then resume sexual life in style.
What about the sex life of parents with older children?
When you have children who are a little older, children and even teenagers, they can become real spies. And when one of the children is jealous of the mother with the father or vice versa? There are also those who suffer from night watchmen or even those who take shelter in the couple’s bed in the dead of night and this completely takes away the couple’s privacy. Allied to the schism that parents already have of their children to hear or see something of intimacy, it can take even more opportunity to be alone and to miss the homesickness. For these and other reasons , couples can go for weeks without a more intimate contact. Which mother has never been looking at the door without stopping and thinking or imagining that the children can appear at any moment? I keep imagining these families who live in small houses, where everyone has to sleep in the same room! How to do? Juggling can only!
But let’s talk about opportunities. When children are babies, any little girl can create an opportunity to date her husband. But when they are bigger, it gets much more complicated. So what to do? I think that when you love and want someone, the opportunity has to be created! Even if it is on a night away from home or even leaving the children with the mother-in-law, mother, aunt, grandmother, godmother … There is a way my people! We must remember that love cannot fail to be part of life. Dating is good for the ego, for the relationship, for the skin and also for humor. In addition to strengthening marital ties and becoming a better loved and humorous mother to endure the stresses of everyday life.
In fact it seems that the couple when they have children and are faced with an opportunity to be together and alone, give much more value to these increasingly rare moments. After all, as children grow older, moments can become increasingly rare. The mother’s sex life is not easy, but everything can be fixed. Strive to be alone with your husband or partner. These moments are fundamental for the good health of the relationship so, reserve a little bit of your day for your love , which helped you to create this beautiful family!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.