Exit Maternity – The Baby is Here!

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The expectation that pregnancy brings to birth is a unique sensation. Only those who have ever waited for a baby, whether from their womb or from their heart, know what it’s like to wait for their greatest love to finally enter the house, enjoy their room, their trousseau. For those who leave the maternity hospital with their babies on their lap, it is a challenge apart. The birth is a true milestone in the life of mothers and fathers, however, between mother and child, it is somewhat private, because together with the baby, an avalanche of feelings, new emotions come, even if it is not the first child. The baby, a beloved but still unknown being, goes into adaptation mode, as does his family and everyone around him. It is normal and very common for everyone to program their days around the new family member, and yet, at times, it seems that everything will go wrong, especially for first-time parents.

In maternity everything seems easier, truth be told . However, the arrival at home does not always reflect the mother’s experience while in the hospital. There, everything seems easier, the baby is more “easy”, even the feedings are less stressful. However, once at home, the reality may fall into the lap of the parents. The baby who used to cry only because of hunger or a dirty diaper becomes another person. She cries endlessly, doubts about how to take care of the baby appear in wholesale, and solutions in retail. Advice from so many people around can even confuse the new mom. But don’t despair! Follow these tips from a more experienced mom, these will certainly help in some way, to facilitate the adaptation and the new experience of leaving the maternity ward and the great event of the baby’s arrival at home!

How to Deal with Leaving Maternity and Coming Home?

Upon arriving from the maternity ward, the baby will certainly “surprise” the environment. The sounds around, the voices of visitors, the movement that is different from motherhood, in short, is literally another world. This without counting the amount of visits that are coming home to meet the new family member, and also the passage from lap to lap, can leave the baby with a sore body and then, more tearful and boring. Imagine you, who were previously in a calm environment, with muffled sounds, listening to the best sound in the world (mommy’s heart) now in this world full of news and so many people admired for its beauty? Well, for first-time moms (or not), the best advice is:

  • Make the environment as peaceful as possible.

As well? And how do I do with visits, with family members? Program! Even before birth, let everyone know that visits will be made after that day or only with prior notice and consent. It is not impolite or impolite on the part of the mother, it is just a form of prevention so that the visits do not arrive all at once, and end up hindering the adaptation between mother and child.

  • Availability

Make sure you have full availability for your baby. Having time available will facilitate adaptation and also feedings. At the beginning, you may even wonder if your life will be just this, breastfeeding, changing diapers, clothes etc, and yes, it will be. At least as long as you breastfeed exclusively and your baby is 100% dependent on you. Better get used to the idea of ​​leaving household chores as a background at least for the time being. Take advantage and invite your mother-in-law, sister, mother, sisters-in-law and friends to help at home, after all, it is at this moment that you need a lot of tranquility and especially to be available for the baby.

  • Be aware that difficulties and unforeseen circumstances will arise.

As much as you have prepared yourself with theories before birth, nothing is like putting it into practice. Taking care of a newborn is quite a task! Know that your days will be focused on him, and that at least for a while, your life will be breathing and experiencing the children’s world. Do not feel bad if you happen to be unable to reach a goal, such as breastfeeding or any other plan that you have drawn up during pregnancy or pre-pregnancy life. Cracks in the breast, some problem with the baby, scares, unforeseen circumstances are part of the adventure of motherhood.

Things do not always happen as we think, plan or want. Also, do not think that you will not be a good mother because you simply had no experience with children or babies. It seems that the maternal instinct provides for any need, even prepares us for something that goes wrong. No one has an obligation to be the best mother in the world in the first month of life, nor to have the most beautiful body on the planet. Live your experiences intensely without creating a romanticized expectations of a commercial for ointment for diaper rash. Being a mother is learning every day, a little at a time with your baby.

  • The baby will adapt yes!

You may think that you will never sleep an entire night again, that your feedings will be hourly, that your cramps will never go away. However, time is a friend of all of us, and as the baby grows, the problems become easier to deal with. There will come a time when he will sleep all night , you will be able to take a bath longer than 30 seconds, your breasts will stop hurting and the pains of childbirth or postpartum will become a vague memory. The baby’s rhythm will get as close as possible to that of the family in a short time.

  • Allow daddy’s involvement

No leaving Dad with just the legal part of the story. Partner parents want to participate and mom must make room for him. If he is afraid or does not want to participate very much, tell him that it is very important that he gets involved. Leave the baby with him and take a nap! If he wants to bathe, allow, change diapers, ditto. Participating is essential.

  • Filter comments

Not all the advice we hear at this stage of life is what we would like to hear. So learn to filter and not take into account certain “criticisms”. As absurd as it may be, this advice is to try to help, just keep what you add and discard what does not match the way you chose to take care of the baby .

Anyway, enjoy this moment a lot. As much as you have other children, each one is unique and the adaptation will be exactly like that, unique. Live intensely and take lots of photos, babies change a lot since they are born, and by the end of the first month, it will be another completely different baby.

See also:  Visits to the Newborn – Basic Etiquette Manual

Dr. Alexis Hart
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.

Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

Dr. Alexis Hart

My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

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