It is not a current problem and much less caused by modernity, it is a fact that has happened since the world and the world, but much talked about and disseminated today. Child sexual violence has been a subject and cause of great concern among families, due to the large number of recent cases and reported in the media. In the past, if you heard of a distant case and today you will hardly ever meet someone who suffers due to the abuse of sexual violence.
Child sexual violence or child sexual abuse is the disgusting act of an adult or adolescent harassing, abusing, using or involving a child in any sexual activity . Be in the sexual act itself, but also through caresses, touches, genital exposures in order to satisfy your own desire. Most of the cases of sexual violence occur inside the children’s homes and their aggressors are close family members and family members. Stepfathers, uncles, brothers are the main aggressors pointed out in the statistics made recently, so every care and every warning sign is little and should be observed carefully.
The vast majority of children who are victims of sexual violence suffer abuses silently due to threats. As the aggressors are known to the victim, they easily know their weaknesses as well as each of their loved ones and routines in their home, which makes violence even easier. This type of aggression does not choose social class and these monsters are spread all over the world, destroying dreams and traumatizing childhoods, thinking only of their pleasure or I would say personal illness.
In addition to the physical threats that the child suffers, shame, guilt and fear of telling someone makes them shut up and suffer sexual violence day after day. There are cases where the child is a victim for years and years without anyone suspecting anything , least of all parents and close relatives ending torture sessions only when they leave home, move or in the event of a complaint.
Signs of Child Sexual Abuse
Children always show signs that something is not going well, just stop and watch. With the hustle and bustle of everyday life and millions of chores that we adults have, glaring signs and right under our nose can be there and we can’t see. Overconfidence in family members also makes us blind to symptoms, but noticing and monitoring the behavior of our children is much more than our obligation.
For single mothers who make the decision to remarry. Knowing who you are relating to and how far you can trust your children is of utmost importance. Sharing your home with a person you do not know, do not know about your nature and even less about your intentions and even more spent with children is a great responsibility and a very serious decision to be made, so care must be redoubled. Children who are victims of child sexual violence usually show signs such as learning difficulties, difficulty in relating to other people , are extremely submissive, demonstrate inappropriate sexual play and have difficulty trusting people. Fear of people of the same sex of the oppressor and in the case of abuse during the night, they may be afraid and have difficulty sleeping.
Some even have thoughts of suicide and outline through drawings the desire to kill the aggressor . They also outline the type of sexual harassment they receive and try to run away from home so that the problem ends for good. They feel guilty for everything, they get hurt easily and end up isolating themselves from the world for fear that they will discover the situation in which they live.
The traumas and marks left by sexual violence are profound, much more than physical damage, they are wounds to the soul . Not only do they destroy dreams, they take away the innocence of a child who had the whole world to discover. When abuse happens through a very close parent or uncle, the damage done is even greater by the feeling of destruction, since where you should receive love and protection is where you found destruction and suffering. Parents, grandparents, uncles and educators be on the lookout for signs of our children, someone very close to you may be needing your help !! There is a hotline so you can do it without identifying yourself and save a life – Dial 100 – Dial Human Rights.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.