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To what extent is having a second child a healthy option for the family? Thinking about the pros and cons, many couples enter into this dilemma of whether or not they have a second child and what this can entail, both benefits and difficulties.
The choice of having a second child must first come from the dialogue and agreement between the couple, never due to external social pressures or the firstborn . Recent research published by the Institute of Geography and Statistics (IBGE) points out that in 2010 the fertility statistics rate was 1.86 children per woman, against 2.38 in 2000.
The decline was due mainly to contraceptive methods that are more accessible to the entire population. The analysis also reinforces that in the 90s one in ten mothers had only one child. Currently, this index is one in three. Therefore, the choice of having only one child becomes more and more common, which includes several reasons that lead to this decision. Is it healthier to have a Child Or More?
What is the best option for your family? Tips to Help in the Decision:
Don’t React on Impulse
This is a very personal and guided choice for each family. It is necessary to analyze the couple’s available time to meet all the needs that result in the arrival of a new baby. It is a path that must be decided rationally and also by the will of the family. Assessing the pros and cons carefully will help you make that decision without any future regrets.
Choice of the whole family
Never to meet the needs of one of the parties, such as the father, mother, or only child. Taking care of a baby is a job that requires a willingness to do countless tasks, so the whole family must be prepared to receive and contribute as they can on a daily basis. When one of the parties is not willing to face such a responsibility with a new child instead of bringing joy, it can generate annoyance and overload.
Prepare for Transformations
All family rules and routine will be changed from the birth of a baby. Before deciding on the arrival of another child, be aware of this transformation and gradually adapt the new family routine. The couple’s relationship undergoes changes, such as the day-to-day life with the firstborn, who will have to share the attention with the brother and have greater autonomy with their own tasks.
Assess the Physical Structure of the Home and Emotional of Parents
Will you have to think about a nice environment to accommodate another child, does your home have adequate space for this scenario? Over time, it may be that a room for both is not enough, in addition to the overall expenses multiplied by two.
When the couple works outside the home, the arrival of a new baby should be evaluated with greater caution, as it risks overloading the parents. Evaluating every detail or situation on a daily basis is essential to avoid any problems. Consider:
- Who will look after the two children?
- Will I also need to hire a maid for household chores?
- Do we have financial resources available for this type of expenditure?
- What can I still enjoy from the last outfit ?
- Are you ready to give up a moment that you consider important in your life, such as your professional career?
IMPORTANT: Evaluate if you will be able to afford all expenses.
Now no longer a child, but two who will demand the same care and expense. Assessing what your plans are is very important when deciding on the arrival of a baby. There are parents who organize projects for their children, such as studying in a bilingual school, courses or doing an exchange. Will he be able to afford them both in the same way? If not, how important is this to you and what way do you suggest.
Time To Dedicate
How is your attention with a single child? From then on, you already have an idea of how you will react with the arrival of one more. If the couple’s routine is quite busy with a single child, now imagine with two? It is important to observe the family’s routine very carefully, taking into account that a baby requires 100% attention and care that will start from scratch.
Taking into account the life of the baby to come is a responsible and necessary act, don’t just think about yourself or your personal will, but about how that child’s routine will be and whether they will be willing to share all the attention with two children, whether in the financial sector, as well as emotional. Is the couple willing to share all housework, childcare and education? All of this must be very well evaluated.
See also: Second Son – Divide Love or Increase?
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
