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Since children we have already dreamed of a family, with children and with the care that we will give them. But when we grow up and see how much responsibility having children generates the dream of having a full house, it can be neglected and the amount of children I wanted too. Before the idea was to have 3 or 4 children and today having an only child is the best option, or not?
In the past, it was normal to see large families with a very large number of children, 7,8,10 or 12 children. Quite different from today’s times, this has been decreasing more and more, this is when the couple decides not to have children. The excuse is the busy life, the financial difficulties, the difficulty in winning things and the most mentioned item, how difficult it is to educate a child, especially in today’s world. But for those who leave the desire for motherhood to speak louder, the doubt of having an only child or more is always present!
Then the first child comes, soon he will begin to hear the famous phrase. “When will you have the second?” or “Now you need to have another one to be with the little couple, right?”. Of course, this type of phrases and questions will be repeated if you have 1,2,3 or 4 children, after all the curiosity of others about our desire to have more children or just have an only child will always exist. And let’s agree, what a boring situation is it? If we want to have more children or an only child it is our choice and it will come from our own decision !!
We parents, when making this decision, were divided into several issues and details, in addition to many concerns, of course, because we always want to give and provide the best to our children. But then the question is, is it possible to give all the best and the best, but being raised alone is a good business? Or is sharing the comfort, but having a brother, partner, life partner and journey worth more? This is a constant doubt among couples who already have an only child, even more so for those whose child does not even ask for a brother. For those who live making this request to the daddies, it ends up becoming an easier decision to be made since part of the person they are most concerned with suffering with the birth of the second child.
Pros and Cons of Having Only One Child
Since the world is a world, we point and connect a child who is an only child as a spoiled child and without limits, when in fact we cannot state this question !! The child is exactly what he receives at home and the education he has from his parents. Therefore, we cannot generalize. Of course, if the child receives everything he wants without imposing limits and rules, he will become a little king and he will feel that he is in charge of the world. have.
Due to the parents’ lack of time due to their busy professional lives, we see more and more “the exchange of affection for material goods”, and this may seem worthwhile at the moment, but it generates very big inconveniences later due to the lack of what is really important for growth of a child, which is the presence, love and attention of the parents . Setting limits and rules is not about being bad parents, let alone executioners as we inevitably feel when punishing them for some mistake, but rather about being teaching with love that life is not the way we want it or the way we always hope .
Studies on an only child indicate that they have a greater chance of life to achieve brighter futures, since they receive an education, better study and a better quality of life. With a single child, parents are able to provide courses, trips, tours and everything that can add to their development, much more than for families with more children that everything is more difficult.
On the other hand, this same study points out that only children have relationship and socialization problems since they are used to living alone and not always learning to share things and live with other people. So it’s actually a game of pros and cons like everything in life! Unfortunately we can’t always get it right and not be the best parents 100% after all we are human. Regardless of the choice we make or the number of children we generate, we will give our best to them and do our best to see them happy and well educated.
See also: Children with Large Age Differences
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
