Temptant life is not easy! Month passes and month enters and that anxiety does not pass. When will my positive finally arrive? And if the pressure of the head and the emotional were not enough, you still have to know how to deal with people’s “thoughts”. How not to be irritated by certain comments and how to get rid of guesses before becoming pregnant?
When the motherhood decision is made many believe that the baby will soon come, but this is not always the case. And besides the collection itself, you still need to deal with certain comments that do nothing to help the woman, on the contrary. They put the woman more and more down and feeling incapable of this mission.
How to Deal With Guessing?
Diluting certain comments is a really difficult task, but one that every attempt must learn, if they don’t want to end up fighting with all the friends and family who have a habit of wanting to make guesses in their life. The great truth is that in many cases, people often talk and want to give tips and even decide when you have to get pregnant without knowing your history and what you are experiencing, in addition to all the difficulties.
That’s the bad thing about human beings! Judge, comment and even fantasize what you imagine without even knowing what is actually happening. That is why many attempts when they are struggling with their positive and facing several obstacles simply prefer to say that they do not want to have children, aiming at people to stop questioning. For some it may even work, for others the hunches continue intensively. Questions like:
- But why don’t you want children?
- Will it take long to get pregnant?
- Doesn’t your husband want to have children?
This is when they do not use their fertile mentality to invent crises in their marriage as if it were a reason for not wanting to have children. The great truth is, if you have one you will always have someone to guess , if you have two, three, five or ten you will have people to criticize and if you have none by choice or because you simply cannot, you will be appointed as well. So relax, take a deep breath and, if possible, run away from evil people who only approach to pry into your life.
Tips for Dodging Guesses
First, do not open your life and what goes on in it for anyone. Only those who are sure that they want you well should participate and share your story, be it good times or difficulties. Your struggle for the positive is personal and you should only be aware of those who support you and your family.
Think of a strategy to answer curious people who ask when children will be born. If you feel comfortable saying that you can’t get pregnant ok, but you are under no obligation to expose the truth mainly because they will question the reasons and you will have to give explanations.
Many women simply reply that they are waiting a little longer or simply that they still don’t want to. These people do not even imagine that behind a short answer and a smile on their face there is a feeling of sadness and a lot of frustration.
And when they ask when the baby comes?
When the question of “when will a baby come”, the desire is to answer: if I knew the right date I would let you know! Is not it? Rs We may not answer for sheer politeness, but inside we thought up several elaborate responses that would make the person never question again. But as we can’t go “kicking” everyone out there, we keep taking, swallowing and being educated as far as we can.
Many guessers will still try to teach you foolproof methods and secret formulas for getting pregnant, as if you haven’t tried any! They will also complement with “there are treatments for those who can’t!”
Juraaa !? If they didn’t speak or know, wouldn’t they?
About Adoption …
If you can’t get pregnant, do you think about adopting? This is yet another typical question that tempters need to endure. If you want to put an end to hunches and guesses, be direct when you don’t like the conversation. It doesn’t have to be coarse or badly polite, but be clear that this subject doesn’t make you feel good, let alone people’s demands.
Unnecessary comments and judgments will only increase your distress and like a snowball, hurt will only increase with every word you hear. Disarm yourself, break free and just listen to what really matters and will help you. Let the words of others enter through one ear and out through the other and absorb into your life only what is good for you and will give you strength to continue the fight. Every attempt is warrior, dreamer and above all victorious, because your trophy will arrive at the right time prepared by God.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.