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Who doesn’t know a woman who has a battle with motherhood, tries and dreams tirelessly to be a mother and can’t? Some of these women are so close to us that it is impossible not to suffer from their struggle. It is inevitable not to think about being a surrogate for someone we love.
It is a very complex situation and requires a lot of psychological balance on both sides to face this fact. After all, the baby that will be born in your belly will not be yours because it has genetic loads from another couple and you are only “lending” your uterus and your body so that the baby can come into the world. To perform this procedure, it is necessary that the couple undergo in vitro fertilization . In this way, it unites the mother’s eggs with the father’s sperm and only after that, the ready embryo will be implanted in the woman’s uterus that will play the role of surrogate mother or temporary mother.
In the past, for surrogacy, it was only allowed if there was a first or second degree relationship . To fulfill the requirements, it should be the mother, sister or cousin of one of the parties of the couple. Currently the laws have been changed and allow any woman with no family connection to grant the surrogate. The practice is allowed as long as no cash or financial return is charged.
Also known in medicine as a replacement uterus , the surrogate can offer a woman who cannot get pregnant for several reasons. Even due to uterine absence after performing a hysterectomy, the chance to perform as a mother and receive your dreamed son in your arms. For the start of any procedure, an agreement by both parties will be required. A consent form must be signed and registered with a notary, which must be presented for registration of the baby after birth. A counselingit will also be necessary for analysis and preparation of the whole situation. Even the psychologist’s report is mandatory to inform that patients are able to continue the process.
The Solidary Belly
The name surrogate ends up sounding like a commercial attitude for profit, so it got the name of solidarity belly . The fulfillment of the dream of a woman unable to generate, can occur due to the solidarity of another woman who places herself in the same situation and feels fragility. The struggle and pain of not being able to fulfill this intimate desire ends up being one of the key factors for decision making.
Being a mother goes beyond generating and giving birth. It will be in everyday life that affective bonds will be created, touch and smiles will be pulled out and that unique feeling of mother and child will grow. Through the supportive belly, it is possible that the mother and father have their genetic traits in this child that was generated in another belly. After all, it is your genes that will form that long-awaited baby.
Women who have undergone a hysterectomy due to a health problem or who have heart disease are considered unfit for pregnancy. These are some of the women who can resort to this option and become a mother through a caring belly. Besides them, women with irreversible uterine deformities and also those who have had recurrent abortions, can use this way of giving birth to a biological child.
The process through bellies in solidarity with relatives of first or second degree, ends up being easier even psychologically. In these cases, the biological mother will be able to directly follow the entire evolution of pregnancy. Mothers, sisters, aunts and cousins end up being touched by the situation and generate with more love. This happens even more because it can follow the growth after birth, at the end of the story the solidary belly will follow the child’s growth.
The law even supports the supportive belly for homosexual couples . The situation is changed only by the factor of egg or sperm donation that must come from a third person. In the case of eggs it can be performed by a fourth person or by the person who will generate the baby during the nine months. In this case, a lot of trust in donors is necessary so that future problems do not occur, since the baby will carry the donor’s genetic inheritance.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
