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Whoever says that a mother is a perfect being definitely does not speak the truth! Mother is a woman, a human being, she has good days and bad days, she has a bad mood and a good mood, a day of joy and days of furies. Even if you try to be 100% mainly with your children, unfortunately it is not possible after all, everyone’s patience runs out .
Mother cares, does, runs after and unfolds to do the possible and impossible for her child. But raising children is not an easy task and dealing with tantrums and malnutrition is even more difficult. After all, who has cockroach blood?
Mother’s Guilt
The big problem is that mothers end up blaming themselves and punishing themselves for losing patience with their children, since they are human and are subject to everything, including “screaming” when they explode. Obviously, “overflows” can be avoided if we know our limits and ask for help “from university students” when we are at our limit. But what about when we don’t have a partner or family member to turn to?
Even the most calm and serene women have their moments of stress. Some find it easier to control their outbursts, others less so. So we decided to write this post to give some tips for moms who are in need of an extra dose of patience with their children, even more for those who are in the phase of “testing” their parents .
According to psychologists, patience is a matter of practice and the more you exercise the more you will have. Take a deep breath, count to ten and even get a little closer when you feel that your limit is reaching are exits to not do what you will regret next.
Tips to Control Patience
Children live stages and compared to a video game, each stage gets more difficult . Anyone who thinks that babies and their cramps and tireless cries at dawn are hard work, did not reach their stage crawling or walking and discovering the world.
They climb everything, move and move everything, do not obey and give a freak when they are contradicted. But this phase also becomes a little bit compared to the next, where they are self-sufficient and even risk responding to parents when they receive an order. When they are preteens or they are already in their teens, don’t even talk!
Is There a Worse Phase Than Another?
The great truth is that there is no worse phase than the other. The worst phase will always be the one you are going through at the moment, and you will have to learn to deal with your patience and the way you act in the face of your child’s behavior. So let’s go to some tips that can be valuable and have a great effect on the mother and child relationship, if followed.
- Always remember, you are your child’s mirror. If you don’t want to see him yelling at people, don’t yell at him;
- When you feel your patience is running out, take a deep breath and if necessary take a few minutes away until you catch your breath. The process of taking a deep breath and exhaling also helps a lot in controlling the nervous;
- Remember, children are in the process of learning and end up testing us all the time. This is the time to teach you what you can’t do !;
- Before bursting, shouting or sketching any reaction, stop and reflect on why you are losing patience. Often it is not even the fault of the children and we end up discounting the nervous from other problems;
- Get down and talk to him always at the same time as him. Even if it seems that he is not understanding, play your role as an educator and mother;
We know that it is not easy to deal with children, especially when we are exhausted due to the rush of everyday life and more N problems with the head. But what we teach and are to our children may seem insignificant at the moment, but it will remain forever as a learning experience in their lives. Be the mother and father you want your children to be in the future!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
