In the past, the role of parents was socially determined with their well-defined roles. The mother devoted herself to the care of the house and raising children, while the father, the man of the house, went in search of sustenance and to provide all the financial needs of the family. Over the years and women’s achievements, women have left the kitchen apron to conquer the world and their financial life. As a result, role reversal is becoming more and more common, where women go out to work and the father stays at home with the children.
Financial responsibilities have already become the obligation of most couples, who share expenses, finances and dreams. Since the man’s salary is usually the highest, the wife’s income always comes to supplement the family’s finances. However, this situation has also changed today and many women have achieved professional growth and high salaries, which exceed those of their husbands.
Putting in the balance the bills, needs, responsibilities and even expenses to keep them on the street working and full school or someone to take care of their children. Many couples come to the conclusion that they would spend less on one of the two at home. Even the attention to the children is put into discussion, since with both working full time and dedicating 100% to work, it is very difficult to keep up with the children’s growth and give the attention they need.
In the past, this was a very easy decision to make! The mother gave up her professional career and returned to dedicate herself to her routine as a housewife and mother 24 hours without question. But if your earnings are equal or even exceed your husband’s, why not switch roles? And so the reversal of current roles arose, where more and more we see men giving up their professional careers or adapting their work in the home office to accompany the development and education of their children .
How to Adapt to This New Routine?
When we think of men at home, we immediately think about how the housekeeping, meals and childcare will be? Despite the good reputation of good cooks are women, the biggest and best known chefs are men, have you noticed? Men may even have been known as messy, but when they work hard they leave women in slippers, especially with the care of the house. If the couple sat down, talked and agreed on the situation, why not try?
It is not an easy decision, especially if the man gives up his job and the family income falls. But when it is decided, it reveals the extent to which the couple is open to attempts outside the standards defined as traditional , aiming at health and quality of family life. If both the mother and the father feel comfortable with this decision, there is a great chance of success in the new routine. As for children, everything is adaptable as long as the parents face and act in a natural way.
In the case of forced decision as it is in a situation of unemployment of the father, the new temporary routine may or may not be a little more complicated. While she does not get a new placement on the market, the mother takes charge of the situation and the house and goes to fight while the father assumes the responsibilities that would be hers at home. Some men may be very uncomfortable with the situation, while others get a taste for the new role, observe the quality of life that it provides to their children and if it is working with the mother, continue calmly.
If the father will not be able to continue with his professional duties at home and his income will be reduced in the family budget, talking openly about the new conditions with his children is a healthy way to teach them. New rules and a new routine will start , so children need to be aware and involved in the new life. It is a great way to teach children that we are willing to change all the time and that sometimes choices are needed for new situations to be experienced. Give up something, for new things and new stories to come!
On the other hand, the couple, but mainly the man will have to deal with their emotional and other people’s comments. Since the man staying at home is not within the standards required and imposed by society. Do not want to play the role of mother, be the FATHER after all has the same responsibilities and care that the mother has. If you are willing to break rules and have the support of your family, live the new moment and show being happy with your family that it is possible to change roles and the father to take care of the children while the mother works outside.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.