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Currently, I have lived three distinct phases of relationship with my children. The little girl with the discovery of the world, Dudu with her 6 years learning letters and numbers, renewing her teeth and Joana with her spines! My little eldest daughter is growing and I am already frightened by the speed at which time is passing, just yesterday I saw her very small by the glass of maternity ( Joana’s birth ) the first fright with the first fever, the first day of school…
One of these days she came to ask about sex, and of course I spoke naturally and clarified her doubts. Your body is already beginning to undergo changes and curiosity takes over! But I also think that each mother and father has to deal with sexuality and puberty in the way that is most comfortable for them, some even choose not to want to touch the subject and, ok! But know that in one way or another in this phase the child or adolescent will certainly end up looking for information from other sources , and better that it is at home in the way that the parents want to instruct, than on the internet where there is all kinds of information, including the wrong ones . I at least think that the way my mother did with us, me and my brothers was the ideal and essential for our formation.
I remember with affection the times when my mother answered with affection all my doubts and all the advice she gave me even after being an adult. I really want my children and now especially Joana to have it all, to remember and do the same with her children.
First menstruation, sexuality, it has to be part of the dialogue between mothers and daughters, now with my son I confess that I am looking for a way to talk when the time is clear, but I always answer and whenever I can I give some explanations of things that are natural in anyone’s life, like for example the other day, the question here was whether daddy’s seed enters mommy’s belly through the navel!
I said no, but I didn’t give any further explanations and he also didn’t ask any more, if this moment arrives before the time I think it would be ideal, I’ll have to speak the truth! Lol The truth is that we are never prepared for this type of situation , but as I said before, the naturalness of dealing with the subject is essential. In any case, instructing and helping them in this phase is a very important form of love for them, even if for that they may have the help of a professional in the matter. For our children it is important to feel that they can fully trust someone, it is to bring our little boys closer.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
