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When we plan to have a child, many things come to mind and many plans start to be made. From small things like the purchase of clothes and trousseau in general to discussions about the baby’s name take the parents’ days and nights in a mixture of anxiety and concern about the moment to come.
But there are also those who expect and want a baby of a certain sex and plan and hope for it even before they know whether the baby is going to be a boy or a girl.
It is at these times that a disappointment can arise with the sex of the baby , which can be very negative for the mother who is still in the gestation period and also for the father who is following the whole process. And how to deal with that kind of frustration? What is the best way to overcome disappointment?
It’s Not Just With You
The first step in learning how to deal with your disappointment with your baby’s sex is to understand that this is not something that happens only to you. This problem can occur with many fathers and mothers around the world and it is very common to feel frustrated about having a baby boy or girl.
Of course, just accepting will not get you over this frustration at once, but it is a very important first step for you to move on.
Accept your Emotions
One of the worst feelings of those who are disappointed with the sex of the baby is the feeling of guilt for finding it wrong to want to have someone other than the one that is forming at this very moment. As an escape route, many people end up repressing their emotions and not really opening up to what they feel, which can make everything worse. So if that happens to you, the best thing you can do is to accept your emotions . Accept that you really wanted a baby of the other sex and accept that you are sad about it. This is a mental job that is very difficult to do, but it is very important to start this journey of overcoming disappointment with the baby’s sex.
How to Overcome Baby’s Sex Disappointment
By understanding that you are not the only person who feels this and by accepting your emotions, you will be ready to move on to overcome the disappointment of being with a baby of a sex you did not expect.
When you understand that your motherly love will always speak louder, you will also begin to get over it and see the bright side of having a baby of the other sex. Reading about the benefits and wonders of having a confirmed sex baby will make you feel good and even look forward to his or her arrival.
Another way to deal with this disappointment is to talk to mothers of boys and girls and realize that, regardless of the gender of your baby, it will be wonderful to have a child. Who knows how to think about the possibility of a next pregnancy after a few years?
Work your Expectations
One of the best ways to keep you from being frustrated is to open your head and not expect to have just the baby of a certain sex. Doing this job with expectations makes you focus your energies on what really matters, which is the health and well-being of your future baby, whether it’s a girl or a boy.
Of course, this is not as easy as you think, but if you have this idea in your head from the beginning, it will be better not to be disappointed with the sex of the baby so big.
When to seek help?
There are cases where the disappointment with the sex of the baby is so great that it will be necessary to see a psychologist for the problem to be resolved. To be sure that this is the case, it is necessary to check if this frustration is hindering the woman’s pregnancy in any way or breastfeeding and care, if the child has already been born.
If so, it is certainly time to visit a psychologist and work on this issue, even if you have read a lot about the subject and heard other people talk, undergoing this type of treatment is necessary so that the baby’s life is not affected either. .
We all create expectations about many things throughout our lives. And this is no different when it comes to having a baby, we always want something to happen, but it is not always possible for everything to happen the way we want.
So working on expectations to not care about the sex of the baby is the best thing to do before you even start planning to have children. Let your maternal love speak louder and you will realize that it doesn’t matter what the child’s gender is, as long as he is well and with you.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
