Raising a child is a big responsibility in our lives. Not only because we are preparing another life for the world, but because we are responsible for being part of the future, defining what that child will be and, even if unconsciously, leaving part of us for the next generations.
This responsibility increases significantly when it comes to raising special children. Children with some kind of need and who need more attention are a challenge for parents.
Most don’t know how to handle this kind of situation properly and learn how to do it throughout their lives. But the important thing is, above all, to improve yourself to make your child capable, no matter what your special needs are.
What are Special Children?
When we talk about special children, we soon realize that it is a very broad term. Usually when this term is used, it refers to children who need certain needs, such as blind, deaf , paraplegic, autistic children , children with intellectual disabilities or mental disabilities as well. Imagine that all children who have these problems as a group have only their positive side and their negative side.
Positive because when we talk about the rights and needs of special children, we talk about rights that make all children equal in the eyes of society, regardless of their physical, intellectual or mental condition.
The negative side, on the other hand, happens precisely because of a certain prejudice that is found in many people who end up failing to see the particularities that each case of disability has.
Although these two sides of the coin exist, it is necessary to understand that they exist and, based on that understanding, to think of solutions to create a better world for all special children.
The Achievements of Special Children
If we do a small historical review on the inclusion of people with disabilities in Brazil, we will realize that the achievements are relatively recent, but extremely important for the entire community of people who have some type of disability in Brazil.
For many centuries, and more precisely until the end of the last century, people with disabilities were seen as inferior and useless to society. This feeling was subject to a great prejudice that still needs to be fought to this day.
The situation began to change in the 1990s, when different groups formed by people with disabilities began to claim their rights and to encourage the creation of laws that would make different sectors of society adapt to the needs of each group.
It is thanks to these achievements that nowadays special children have a much better future perspective than special children born 30 or 40 years ago. It is clear that there is still much to be achieved, but it cannot be denied that there is a certain advance in this direction.
Inclusion in Schools
The inclusion of several special children in the school is a process that requires special attention from the teacher, but always closely monitored by the parents. It is necessary to remember that acceptance of the child’s condition, as well as how to make him feel good about his condition, begins at home.
A child who is well resolved with his difficulties within the family environment, will have much more moral support and more self-esteem to deal with the obstacles that it is to adapt to a school.
When we talk about inclusive education, we are talking about a process that aims to include practically all types of children within schools with regular education, that is, a type of education that aims to end the segregation of education between children with and without disabilities.
The Law number 9.394 / 96 is a major milestone for inclusive education and a great achievement for the special children, since it is the law that allows this kind of education to be done throughout the country.
Inclusive education has several benefits, the main one being the integration of children with disabilities into social life with children of all kinds. This is extremely important for children not to grow up with prejudice and also for special children to have the same level of education and opportunities as other children.
These are benefits that seem to be punctual, but that change the way people see the world . Gradually, these achievements are making society increasingly more egalitarian.
Dealing with Prejudices
Despite the many advances made in recent years, it is not overnight that prejudices will end. This means that a special child will inevitably and unfortunately have to deal with some kind of prejudice during their lifetime. The role of parents here is extremely important so that these moments do not affect the child negatively to the point that he feels bad and that this affects his education in some way. It is
important to show the positive side, to show all the children and her friends who are not prejudiced and also to explain the history and achievements of special children during the last times. If there is any kind of prejudice within the school, parents should talk to the teacher, principal or coordinator so that something can be done about it.
Special children can live a normal one. It is important to affirm and recognize this as a truth in order to understand that many of the thoughts that have been passed on by us for decades, are outdated and have nothing to do with the reality of the community of people with disabilities.
It is necessary to learn to live with differences and, therefore, both parents of special children and parents of children without any disabilities, must teach and mainly show their children that everyone has differences, but that everyone also has rights, duties and responsibilities. dignity. It is not overnight that we are going to build a better society and without prejudice, but certainly raising a child with this awareness is already a great job.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.