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Shared bed is nothing more than sharing the double bed with your baby, together with your partner. This shared bed method is somewhat controversial as there are specialists who are totally against it but others in favor of its benefits. The shared bed creates a very strong bond between the parents and the baby, and that bond can lead to future problems. Initially the shared bed is beneficial for parents, more for the mother, because the comfort of breastfeeding without having to get up several times at night is very attractive. Later with the growth of the baby, the shared bed can bring security for the baby and the child.
However, some precautionsmust be taken when using the bed shared with the baby. In addition to avoiding the method when one of the parents sleeps a very heavy sleep and mothers who breastfeed in bed should also pay attention when they are very tired, breastfeeding lying down requires caution, as the breast can “suffocate” the baby, so if you are very tired look for sit down to breastfeed. An alternative to a shared bed are bed extenders, side beds, co sleepers are also a good option. These can be found in specific baby stores and it is a total novelty, they allow the baby to still be close to the mother, but in their own space. Another alternative to extend the bed is to remove the crib from the cradle if it is the same height as the couple’s bed, and then pull over. It can help and a lot. Safety tips are always welcome,prevent the child from falling?
Knowing when to end the method is also important. Of course, there is no specific period for this to happen, it is up to the parents to limit and gradually encourage the child to sleep in their own bed over time. And what about the couple’s sexuality with the shared bed? Of course, everything can be fixed, but it is important for the couple to pay attention to this factor. The sexual life is very important in a marriage and set aside time alone is key. But what are the pros and cons in the vision of those who live in the bed shared with the baby? Your daily joys and difficulties? See the account of two readers and their different experiences with the shared bed.
Mother Kethleen Erdman 21 years old and baby Murilo Erdman 1 year and 13 days.
Changing Diapers: How did the shared bed happen, was it natural or was it planned?
Kethleen: It was natural, I planned to leave him in his room, I set everything up properly, crib and such, but my son had a lot of colic when he hardly slept at night and when he slept he stayed with me, I started to feel sorry for leaving him alone in the crib even though I was sleeping in a single bed next to him, that’s when he came to my bed and until today he didn’t leave.
Changing Diapers: What is the advantage of using the shared bed method with the baby?
Kethleen: Well, I feel that it is one of the only moments that we can enjoy alone even when he is sleeping, we exchange affections, hugs and kisses, a lot of affection and it is not a sudden separation, because he was 9 months in the mother’s belly and as soon as he is born, is in an unknown place and alone, I don’t like the idea lol
Changing Diapers: What’s the downside?
Kethleen: The only “disadvantage” I can think of is intimacy, but we are very clear, as my husband says that our bed is just for sleeping and nothing else kk
Changing Diapers: Does the husband agree and support or support in the beginning?
Kethleen: Yes, my husband even encouraged him, and he loves it too, he never complained, and I remember that at the time I tried to get him out of my bed he didn’t let him, he likes our son always close.
Changing Diapers: How does it feel to have a shared bed?
Kethleen: Love, attachment, affection, it’s all good.
Can you imagine yourself without making a shared bed?
Kethleen: yes, when he grows a little more, everything is very natural, without a sudden transition or anything, all in his time.
Changing Diapers: Message to the pregnant woman thinking about adopting this method …
Kethleen: That I support, the fragile baby needs to feel safe, it is very good and it is not a sudden separation neither for him nor for mom, the babies grow so fast, enjoy every moment with him, even at the time of sleep lol. .and it is easier also in the breastfeeding part;
clearer everything talked about between the couple and with the certainty that will not have discontent of any part.
kisses stay with God
Blogger’s Note: In addition to the shared bed there is the shared four, my husband and I still live this experience and are getting ready to get our youngest out of our room. We are preparing a corner with her brothers and we can see that she herself asks to go to sleep with her brothers despite being very attached to me. The right time for this transition to happen is with the parents.
See also: Baby Growth and Its Crises
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.
