Being a mother is beautiful, wonderful, completes the woman in an incredible way. But shall we speak the truth? It gives a job … It’s true! Look for your friends who are mothers and ask each one of them how much they work to take care of their children, of the sleepless nights, of the things they have given up. That is the subject, let go. I particularly gave up everything(a lot) to be a full-time mother. Since the oldest was born, I am Patricia mother. We decided that we would take care of the baby so that she had all the attention possible from the mother. So it was with the following children. But of course, I didn’t die for the world, on the contrary. But I don’t do as many things as I used to and mainly work out. I work a lot, but luckily in a more simplified way, I am Home Office (I work at home) and I am happy like that. This way I can be closer to the children and at the same time help to supplement the family income.
Supporting this galley is not easy, make no mistake! There are 3 nervous mouths that eat a lot, demand a lot and try to give them the best I can. But I am aware that I am lucky to be able to live this way. Other women have to leave their jobs to care for their children and others do so with pleasure and by choice. They also provide help for education and day-to-day care, such as the services of a nanny for example. This is the case of Débora Secco, who is pregnant with her first daughter Maria Flor . She recently said in the press that she intends to take care of her daughter alone and will dispense with the help of a nanny. It is a fact that this is her choice, since she is able to pay an aid. But who doesn’t?
Débora, who, unlike many, is famous and at least appears to have a high standard of life. She is certainly doing this out of pure choice to take good care of her daughter. Fortunately, she can dedicate herself fully to her daughter and there are so many women who make that choice … But I keep thinking about who needs to work and earn a minimum wage to supplement their income, but for not having quality support (government daycare centers, municipalities etc) or help from family members, they have to spend 100% of their time taking care of their baby. These women are true warriors, as they have to manage a tight budget and still have a newborn baby. But the fact is that many women also choose to abandon their careers to be 100% mothers. The cases are not rare and it always happens when there is greater support behind. That financial support from the husband, partner, parents or family.
How to make the decision?
This decision is not the easiest, but it is not one that is liable to regret. After all, the birth of a child is a unique moment in a woman’s life, and being able to give all the love and affection regardless of concerns about work, studies etc., is an experience without equal. Really for those who can and choose to live like this, dedicating 100% to their child is an incredible experience that will bring mom and baby great memories.
Debora Secco celebrates 29 weeks pregnant with her daughter Maria Flor.
But what about the feeling of guilt? Did I choose not to work outside to take care of the children? Dealing with guilt and also sometimes with the demands of others on the subject is complicated. Raise your hand like a full-time mother who has never heard: But do you just stay at home? Only take care of the child (ren)? And who said this is not my lady’s job? It is not paid work, but it should! Still, the woman who does it, I guarantee it is with a lot of love and affection. In addition to childcare, domestic work tends to be endless. Unless we close our eyes to everything they still have to do in the house.
Those clothes that must be ironed, the dishes to wash and store … There is still attention to be paid to children. Help with homework, prepare the meal and give all the love you have in your heart. Yeah … Maybe being a full-time mother is not so well understood, but ask any mom who devotes all of her time to her children and will hear one voice saying: Is it worth it to drop everything to care for the children? YEA!
It pays off and a lot, as long as you have support for this option. For those who stopped working, tighten your seat belts a bit, even if it is in your baby’s first 2 years. There is no phase when he needs Mom so much and you will certainly feel fulfilled in all aspects. Maybe professional life can be paused for a while, maybe it’s not the same, but neither will you. Now you have things as or more important than your career, you are a MOTHER!
Are you a full-time mother? How it feels? Would you do it all again? I would do it all again without batting an eye. I was able to take care of my children from birth until now, and it was certainly the right decision I ever made. Did I redo my professional life a few years ago and sincerely? It was at the right time!
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.