The big day has come! Finally you met that little being who made your life different, gave your story more color and brought more expectations to your life. When she gets home, every little corner and carefully taken care of details begins to come to life, but with all this charm, the woman’s wear and tear after birth also comes. Is it postpartum depression ? Late sleep? Do I have anemia? After all, what’s happening to me? It is such a fatigue, an uncontrolled exhaustion that it gets to worry. But what’s going on?
People imagine that after the baby is born, everything will return to normal as if by magic. The weight of the belly will not bother you anymore and even the comfortable sleeping positions can return. Vanity is mandatory, as is the mood for all events, especially those in the family. But have you ever stopped to imagine how many emotional and not just physical changes a woman goes through during the 9 months?
Being pregnant goes far beyond just generating or harboring a baby inside you. It requires a lot of physical and emotional stress and a lot of psychological preparation to withstand the transformations and discomfort generated by pregnancy and still deal with the pressure and fear of the day of childbirth .
When the baby is born, your body will be in the process of recovery and therefore fatigue is inevitable, even more than instead of sleeping to compose yourself you will have to take care 24 hours a day of a newborn who wakes up all the time and needs comprehensive care, in addition to breastfeeding, which is a tough job and postpartum menstruation that never seems to end.
That is why it is so natural to hear from women who have just given birth, who are feeling like “rubbish”. The wear and tear of women after childbirth is not always linked to a lack of vitamins or postpartum depression . In the vast majority of cases, the wear and tear is linked to the natural tiredness of the whole process that she lived and is experiencing. It may take a few months to recover and return to your normal disposition, depending on your routine, how much you can rest, how much support your partner and family members have and even the amount of commitments you have.
Adapting to the new life and the new routine can take a few months, for some women the process can be faster. The important thing is not to charge yourself too much and not want to do what you can’t do. Asking for help is also not ugly and saying that you can’t get much less! Yes, women after childbirth need help and what may be minimal for some, is a help in so much for them, even more if they have other children.
How to mitigate the wear and tear after childbirth?
As your body needs adaptation after the baby is born, that recommendation that was said so much in pregnancy will be remembered now: “Sleep as much as you can”. Lack of sleep after the baby is born is really one of the key points of wear and tear after delivery, as there is no better way to recover than sleeping to recharge your energy. Here are some tips :
- Newborn babies sleep for many hours in a row and wake up only to breastfeed, change diapers and bathe. Enjoy these long naps to rest too, including the night when you put him to sleep, sleep early too;
- The breastfeeding is another process wearing and women, mostly having to wake up at night to feed the baby. Try breastfeeding on your side, where you can rest and relax while breastfeeding;
- In addition to daytime sleep, eating is at the top of the energy recovery list. Drinking a lot of water , eating healthy foods and eating meals at the correct times will provide greater disposition;
- Ask for help from friends and family , especially those who offer to visit you and who you know are willing to help. Helping with tasks like cooking, taking care of other children if you have one or even staying with the baby while you get some rest will be a help in both.
Another point that weighs heavily on women’s lives and brings a great deal of wear and tear after childbirth, is the chores of the house. Relax a little with the neura with the house, otherwise you will freak out for good! Do the basics to keep it free of charge and if possible and if you are able to hire someone to give you a helping hand at least in the first months of your baby’s life.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.