What not to say to first-time mothers

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When women become pregnant, guesses also begin. It is funny how so many people who understand the pregnancy of others know everything, absolutely everything about pregnancy and how first-time mothers can and should act. But in reality, what bothers first-time mothers the most? What makes them most upset? What are the absurd guesses (sometimes not) that could make her stress with you? Let’s start with pregnancy, this is a delicate phase for women. Your hormones are in full swing and many changes come with them. Therefore, the ideal is to close your ears to some pearls from people around first-time mothers.

No nausea, this is freshness! In my children’s pregnancy, I didn’t feel any of this.
We must remember that each body reacts in a different way to pregnancy. If you have not had symptoms such as nausea and nausea feel privileged and do not criticize when any pregnant woman complains about this symptom to you. Pregnancy nausea is terrible for some women. Be supportive (o) ok?

Wow, your belly is very small, I think you don’t eat properly, you have to eat for 2! Is your baby growing up right?
Again, each organism reacts differently to weight gain during pregnancy, and the size of the belly does not mean anything! There are some women with small bellies , low weight gain and who have babies weighing around 4kg! There is also a counter-hand, it is not because you gained 20kg in pregnancy that you will have a chubby baby. The size of the baby is equivalent to the parents’ genetics and yes, it is important to just check with your doctor if everything is fine. If you are, stay calm and let the big talkers talk.

40 weeks? I think it’s time for your baby to be born! Get a C-section right away! Do you want him to die in there?
For the unsuspecting, the pregnancy has a period of 280 days or 40 weeks but due to the count of 2 more weeks (from the first day of menstruation) the woman can wash up to 15 more days in pregnancy without any problem. For this reason, some doctors count up to 42 weeks. If at the end of 41 weeks the baby has not shown signs of wanting to be born then look for a maternity or your doctor, but don’t despair at 39, 40 weeks ok?

Sleep, sleep a lot! You don’t know how tired it is to take care of a baby. He wakes up all the time, so you have to rest now.
This part is still true, after birth, first-time mothers are very tired. The problem is that you can’t sleep! For those who have never been pregnant or have been and do not remember, the woman who is pregnant has no position to lie down sleeping. If she is not sleeping it is not because she doesn’t want to, but because she can’t.

Pearls for First Time Mothers After Childbirth

After the baby is born the festival of tips and hints for first-time mothers is even bigger! Who has never heard at least one of these advices or guesses? What should you do when someone displeases you with some of these suggestions?

Just give this baby a bottle, he’s crying and he’s hungry!
For unsuspecting visits, breast milk is the best source of food for a baby. In the early days, colostrum (mother’s first milk) may be weaker and watery, but it still supports it! The best answer that you who are first-time mothers can give is: rest assured, soon the milk will come down for good and I will even have it to donate to your grandchildren (children).

Sometimes the guesses are bitter, but let’s face the landscape so as not to spoil the visit.

Wow, your baby is small, right? 2500kg is not enough, mine was born with 3800kg!
Ai ai ai, how many times will we have to say that each DNA has a different characteristic? The baby’s weight depends on the parents’ biotype. If they are tall, the baby tends to be bigger and thinner. If they are short, equally … Each child is unique and should never be compared, not even with his siblings.

This child cries too much. Why don’t you pick him up soon? Or This child will become too used to being on his lap, that’s why he is crying.
Of course the baby will cry! It is the only way to communicate with the world my lady! But if the mother realizes that crying is of pain (more aggressive and acute) then it is cause for concern. Young children cry even because they are hot or stressed, fear, insecurity … Stay calm and follow your intuition like all first time mothers have.

Look at this baby, he is cold (or hot).
Wrap your baby up according to what you are feeling. Babies don’t feel colder than we do, but they should be protected, so long-sleeved clothing. Don’t stuff the baby with woolen clothes in the 34 degree heat just because your aunt ordered it. Babies can get short-sleeved and pissed , they won’t get sick from it. If you notice that his hands are cold, then wrap some more, but always use common sense.

Each family has a different rhythm, so don’t get attached to other people’s schedules. You should establish your routine in the way that is best for baby and mom. Remember that the first few days can be more difficult due to the visitation marathon, but soon it will pass, and no matter how difficult things are, things will get right.

A tip for first-time mothers: if you have someone willing to help like your mother-in-law, mother or sister, accept it. If only for a few days and regardless of the guesses. Remember that postpartum is a phase of adapting a helping hand. Let go of the crazes at least at this point. It will make adaptation much easier. Relatives, do not offer to take care of the child. Offer to help with other things, food, clothing and home. This will make the new mom’s life a lot easier and also leave a good impression.

See also: Newborn Visiting Etiquette Manual

Dr. Alexis Hart
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.

Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

Dr. Alexis Hart

My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

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