Many couples, even before the wedding, have already started their plans to increase their family, but others… Sometimes because of the husband who finds it too early, due to the lack of financial or emotional structure, or even by the woman who resists getting pregnant sometimes for the same reason. that of man with the addition of aesthetic beauty, the changes that pregnancy can bring to the body conquered with so much effort with diets and gym.
The truth is that a child or children carry enormous responsibilities even before they are born, and you are not always prepared to assume them, not at that moment at least. But what about when your biggest dream is to have a baby and your partner doesn’t want it at that moment or in any way? It is much more common for women to want this moment to come in the couple’s life, but there are also many men who have the initial desire to increase the family.
The fact is that when the biological clock rings for either party, it is undeniable. The desire arrives and there is not much to do, the thought of having a baby soon does not come out that easy in the head. The problem is when the couple does not share the same thought, fights, disagreements can happen and cause discomfort in the relationship. The couple’s time in terms of children may not be so simultaneous, the pressure for a pregnancy can even bring problems because, some couples may have their sex life affected due to the fear of the opposite side to pregnancy and this is a serious indication that the pressure it is stronger than you think and we come and agree, pressing for the pregnancy to happen can make the situation even worse.
Conversation… that is the key word for this situation. The couple must negotiate and the party (man or woman) who wants to increase the family so much must expose their feelings. Tell why the strong desire to have a baby at that moment and the pros that parenting brings. Indeed, a child brings many responsibilities but the love and joy that comes with them is undeniable. Of course, responsibility and expense must be taken into account and very much considered, after all, a child is not a toy and requires a minimum of structure on the part of the couple. If the couple has a home of their own and is able to care for their future child, why not? But the decision must be taken together by the couple in order to avoid being unhappy with the news of the positive. Transforming this beautiful moment into a kind of fear of the partner’s reaction is not the best way to start such a beautiful phase of life.
Being prepared for the arrival of one or more children, will make the experience of motherhood or fatherhood the best possible for the couple, the complicity of that moment has no comparison with any other phase of life, living fully and without fears or doubts between the couple is very important.
But what about when pregnancy happens without wanting to?
Lived by me in the skin and look, it was quite a scare! Suddenly at 20, a surprise and “unwanted” pregnancy was still very young, single and without structure . I just studied and depended on my parents, I trembled at the base to give the news to everyone around me, mainly to the biggest interested party, my boyfriend at the time, now husband.
It was not a complete surprise, but the news of the pregnancy still had a huge impact on both sides of the family. I took the courage to tell about the pregnancy and had the biggest surprise of all, although my parents were strict and accepted the news with ease. The fear is the worst director of all and won by he tried to hide for a few days.
Trust, this is what I advise you to have in your partner and parents if necessary, sometimes we paint a green monster and it is nothing like that. Of course, everyone knows the situation they live in and although it seems like a bad time, the baby has nothing to do with it! Try to take the pregnancy condition as best as possible and, if necessary, seek guidance from a friend, friend or even a psychologist to help you face this moment of surprise.
When you are ready for a pregnancy to happen everything becomes easier then dialogue and weigh the pros and cons is essential for a couple thinking about having children, either now or within a period stipulated by both. Having children is a consequence of the love between the couple and one hour it will overflow to the point of generating a new life!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.