Third Son – Challenges of the Tentant and Mother
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It was naturally that everything happened. I became tempted by the third child because I still have so much love in my heart to give. Although I already had two great loves in life, I needed to close this cycle in a way that I felt complete, fulfilled and very much wanted the experience of motherhood to be worthwhile and to be the complete experience that my heart asked for.
At first, I thought it was a real madness in my head, I wondered if I could handle three children, if everything would not become a real madness… At the end of all the questions I decided to let God solve for me. If it were my destiny to be a mother of three children , he would send my little angel and period. Although it was not like that, things happened when they were supposed to and like other times, the positive took me by surprise. I, as a tentative to the third child, was not known to everyone, but still suffered from the comments of someone who knew or at least distrusted my intensions. And when did the pregnancy happen then? The comments rained down like:
– You are crazy?!
– Three kids will drive you crazy!
– Wow you are brave huh?
– Do you want to populate the whole world alone?
– You don’t have a TV at home?
What I heard in this pregnancy surpassed all the comments of the second pregnancy in which practically they sent one of them (me or husband) to provide some type of sterilization such as vasectomy or sterilization. What I heard most was : are you going to operate? Will your husband operate? Enough right? Two looks great! As for the husband, the comments were milder and were meant to magnify his ego as a great reproductive male that he was, after all, at 37 he impregnated his wife for the 4th time! Being tempted by the third child can be seen as complete madness, go for me! Keeping attempts confidential may be the best option to stop hearing unwanted guesses.
But what is it like to have the Third Child in Practice?
The third child is like the second, with the difference that we are more prepared psychologically, mentally and physically to face, besides the unwanted comments, the marathon that is having more than one child at home . The maturity of a third-time mother is exceptional ! We already know what to expect from pregnancy, from our body and also how to deal with the difficulties, problems and pain that motherhood brings as when they get sick.
The 3 most important people in my life!
With the third child I learned that a mother has a bigger heart than they say out there! If a mother’s heart is big, it becomes even more so with affection that one receives from three children. My house became a real mess and my days full of company, I was never alone again. I also learned that I am stronger than I thought and that I am much more capable than I thought. Being a mother of threemade me see life differently and I realized the difficulties, but also the joys that a big family brings with them. Everything is lived more intensely and now that they are all a little bigger than two years ago, I finally have time to realize that I can’t remember what it was like before I had this real organized chaos in life. The house with three children was even more filled with joy, and I do not regret ever making this decision and I thank God for having answered my heart’s request.
If your third child is coming without you even wanting it, know that he will come filled with so much love and affection that it will become the greatest accomplishment he has ever had. It will come to complete a cycle and make your life faster, crazier and even happier! Welcome this life with much love, it will return as soon as you feel the first movements and more after your birth.
Being a mother of three means going crazy three times more, sleeping three times less, washing and ironing three times more, but it is also receiving love, affection, unconditional dedication, multiplied by three.
See also: The Third Cesarean Section – Childbirth Report
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.