Patience Test – How to Act with Tantrums and Tanks?

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If there is a complicated phase and it works as a test of patience for parents, the tantrum and tantrum phase occurs to review our methods of education and reinforce some other points that may be lagging behind. We shouldn’t feel guilty when we go through a situation in public, like a typical show drenched with tears and falling to the floor because you said you wouldn’t buy the snack your child wants.

After all, tantrum is the way that babies and children find to express what they feel, what they want and what they don’t want and as they still don’t know how to deal with this situation, they end up acting like an explosion of feelings or bad creationsas seen by others. But all of this is part of their development, and it will be the gateway to this new lesson and it will only depend on our parents knowing how to deal with this situation and teaching them to face this stage more. Teaching them to cope and understand the word is NOT the starting point. Learning that they cannot have everything they want, let alone at the moment they want, is also essential for them to be able to control their emotional when they are upset in any situation or environment. Tantrum may be part of child development, but it is also linked to the lack of limits imposed by parents. That is why the real need to teach them so that they do not become adolescents and adults out of control, without any emotional control.

The tantrum and tantrum session occurs as a test of patience itself, to see how firm the parents will be in their decision or give up what has been said so as not to be embarrassed in public or to endure the whimpering. It is at this moment that many parents end up making mistakes and for the show to end, they end up giving in and doing the child’s will. There, he got what he wanted and it was easier than he imagined. You can be sure, that next time he will do it again and again and as many times as he deems necessary to get what he wants after all, the father and mother give in when they start to cry or throw themselves to the floor. Instead of cutting off the tantrum session by doing what the child wants, why not teach them that this is not correct? That this is not how situations are solved, let alone that you will get what you want. Teaching is more work than giving in to children’s wishes and pampering? Believe me, the answer is no! The most appropriate way to resolve and face the issue is to be firm, and never losing control of the situation. Some experts in child behavior, point out that the most appropriate way to proceed before this scene, it is to let the child struggle and cry all he wants without the parents showing any reaction, except to ignore them. That way they will feel that there is no point in throwing a tantrum that parents will not do what they want and the patience test will be solved.

But let’s face it, it is very difficult to see your child on the floor, screaming, crying and making everyone around you look with judgmental eyes, without the blood boiling. So we must count to 10, take a deep breath and act in the most coherent way to resolve the issue. Whether he ignores the scene so that the child gets tired and stops alone, or that the reins are taken and very calm (at this time it is very difficult) and is put and shown how ugly the child’s attitude and behavior is and with a good conversation, report the ugly scene you are committing and that you could have resolved and spoken otherwise.

Tantrums in stages

In the vast majority of cases, tantrums start around 2 years old and extend to 5 or 6 years old. However, there are isolated cases where this bad behavior starts earlier at around 18 months of life. Babies who express themselves in this way have related their behavior to a stronger temperament, as they are still too immature to understand certain rules. After 2 years of age, they are able to accept and follow conditions imposed by parents and guardians where it is possible to understand when placed “you cannot scream and cry without reason” or “you cannot hit people” in the case of an aggressive child . Teach how important dialogue is and learn to ask for what you want without crying.

During the tantrum, go down to the child’s height and talk. Tell us why you can’t do this and explain why you said no. Teach that through dialogue it is possible to reach an agreement and that scandals will make him miss the opportunity to express himself as he should and even to win what he wants. Punishment is also one of the ways to show bad behavior and will make you think before you do it, especially at the age of 4 to 6 years old. Showing who sets the rules is essential to end tantrums, but never abuse authoritarianism. After all, parents must teach, direct and use authority to provide education and teach the best way. Show that every cause has its effect and that everything you do will have a consequence, be it good or bad. If you do something wrong, you will lose something you like temporarily due to your actions. If you mess up, you should fix it and so on. Believe me, the tantrum phase will pass and with a lot of calm and love, the test of patience will be won. And may the new stages of child development come!

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Dr. Alexis Hart
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.

Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

Dr. Alexis Hart

My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

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