If there is an arduous and complicated task in an adult’s life, it is to educate children. Being a father, mother and responsible for other lives besides ours, is extremely delicate and very important. Through past teachings that character and values will be formed. Thousands of parents, believing that they are giving a great education to their children, end up sinning by excess and raising a spoiled child. Inside the house it may not be such a problem, since it was a situation formed by the family itself, but what about the world outside?
We see daily situations of children who rule in their homes and in their parents. They have no limits, rules and own their own nose when they should still be directed by their parents. They eat what they want, when they even want, they order it on the daily menu of the house. Choose family outings. Only the programs chosen by him are shown on television. Only his favorite songs are played on the radio, and the whole family revolves around the little king ‘s navel .
When upset, chirps, screams and a lot of crying with the right to a show occur for those who want to see it. For that, it doesn’t matter the place and ends up creating embarrassment for parents before society that yes, they usually judge and comment on the child’s bad education. All this form of education, is known by psychologists as infantolátria. It is the act of parents spoiling their children too much by making them little commanders or kings of the situation. The fact must be changed while there is time, so that future problems and when adults do not happen causing more suffering. Children need to learn limits, live rules and know the meaning of the word NO. They can’t always be the center of attention and win everything they want, and will they have to learn by experiencing the reality of life?
What does it mean to be a good parent?
Being a good father and mother does not mean giving everything your children want, but teaching them the ways they should go. This includes showing limits and respecting the wishes and choices of others. Being a father and mother is showing the reality of life with a great deal of affection, cuddling and love.
Trying to offer everything with the correct dosage, after all everything that is too much and too much is bad , even love. Overzealous and caring can be detrimental to the child’s development, after all, they need to grow and learn to be dependent. They need to be secure in making their own choices and, when necessary, walking their own paths.
Parents’ good teaching is the basis of what they will become as adults, even if it is not possible to discover how they will behave before the world in the future. We parents always try to do the best, to offer the best of us. The formation of the character of an individual, is established in childhood and from it he will carry the principles for the rest of his life.
We normally compare the education given to our children to the education we receive from our parents. Those who have had a rigid , difficult education , wish to offer the opposite to their own, and do exactly the opposite of what they once thought was wrong. For those who were too loose, without limits, they end up providing a more regulated life with total control over their children’s lives, and in many cases also sinning by excess.
There is no information manual on how to educate children unfortunately, but everyone is aware that excesses are bad for every human being, especially for children in development and character formation. Many of the spoiled children grow up to become angry teenagers and adults. They do not accept being opposed by the world and not receiving what they have always had inside the house. Many of them end up looking for drugs and drinking as an escape from the situation and evolve into very serious problems.
Children should be raised with the heart, with total donation and feelings, but with the help of the head and reasoning as well. Parents have a duty to teach how to win and lose, to listen , not to always be the focus of the situation and above all to share, share and respect others.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.