Dra Mirian Lopes
How about a new honeymoon after giving birth? How is it possible? Sexual activity can be resumed after delivery with affection, patience and understanding. Some aspects must be considered:
Resuming sexual life : After childbirth, the woman needs time to recover from the physical and emotional changes she experienced. Each woman has a specific time to resume sexual activity. In general, the medical recommendation is that the woman keep at least 40 days. However, nothing prevents the couple’s desire to have their first sexual intercourse after giving birth and maintaining care.
Sex without penetration : Sex is not just genital contact, that is, it is not limited to penetration. In this resumption, partners can experience pleasant physical and emotional sensations. When expanding the sensorial focus, the couple should take the opportunity to give and receive caresses, kisses, hugs, cuddles, provocations, gallantry among themselves, an intense game of seduction, without haste and without worries about performance. Use your creativity before bed, when you wake up or when you shower. Be surprised by cultivating a pleasurable intimacy that will keep the flame burning.
Masturbatory practice: Masturbation should not be seen as negative and objectionable. It is an activity that revalues women in their femininity, and can be practiced without fear and reticence. In addition, the masturbatory practice expands the couple’s pleasure. Consensual partners can practice it mutually or they can stimulate themselves while observing the other without intervening. This complicity raises the temperature and prepares the beginning of complete sexual activity.
Physical changes : It is natural for physical discomfort and changes in the woman’s sexual disposition in the postpartum phase. The woman may have her desire reduced, vaginal dryness, tiredness due to breastfeeding, insecurity, irritation and sleep. Therefore, it is essential that the couple maintain a climate of understanding, dialogue, acceptance, thus avoiding demands. Understanding this moment of emotional and physical rediscovery between both promotes a favorable climate for the resumption of sexual pleasure.
Taking care of emotions : It is necessary for the couple to take care of their emotions. Rebalancing sensations and feelings is important, after all, with the birth of a child, the paternal and maternal role is also born. It is common for some men to regard their partner as a sacred figure, and find it difficult to treat her as a sexual partner. The woman for dedicating herself exclusively to her son, can forget about taking care of herself, her body and her vanity. Therefore, the partner must deal with this situation in a calm and loving manner. The couple should create moments when they can be alone to interact and talk about what they feel. This helps to resume intimacy.
Taking care of the body : Taking care of the body is essential for the woman to strengthen herself and feel good. The doctor should be consulted on which exercises are most suitable. Vaginal exercises are also indicated for strengthening the pelvic muscles. Beauty care, skin, nails, hair also increase self-esteem and make women feel more attractive!
Satisfaction is the way : The search for satisfaction must be the focus more than the expectation of orgasm. It is a phase of rediscovery of both man and woman. So, the pursuit of pleasure, the exercise of caresses, without imposing limits or demands, should lead the couple on this gradual path. Finally, escaping from routine, developing creativity, using lubricants, accessories and erotic toys, will make the couple pay close attention to their fantasies, emotions and sexual pleasure.
By Dra Mirian Lopes, Psychologist specializing in human sexuality Bachelor / Psychology degree from UNIP Postgraduate in Human Sexuality from the Faculty of Medicine of the University of São Paulo – FMUSP
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.