Undoubtedly raising a child is one of the most difficult tasks for parents. Teaching them right and wrong, which may or may not, generates several doubts about it. But what about when they do something wrong? Does scolding the baby help?
Some of the parents’ functions are to welcome , protect and guide the child, even because a very young baby would not understand educational actions, therefore, scolding the baby would not help much.
At that age, when the child does something he shouldn’t have to guide him showing that he shouldn’t do that. Of course, the child will not always remember, so it will be necessary to repeat the same order several times .
Losing patience, shouting or hitting are not correct attitudes, no matter how nervous the parents are and this behavior will only frighten or hurt the baby.
To belittle, to humiliate the child, will only bring disastrous future consequences. In any case, to avoid giving this type of scolding, the ideal is that the house is a safe place so that the child is not “tempted” to do things that they shouldn’t.
If Scolding the Baby Doesn’t Work, What to Do?
Scolding the baby does not solve it, but that does not mean that parents should let him do what he wants. In fact, the ideal is to guide you. The key word is “No”, but not just any “no”, it has to be given firmly and always keeping the negative , for example: “Don’t touch this remote control!” and not “Don’t touch this remote control, okay, just move a little bit!”
It is essential to remember that very young children are totally innocent, no matter how irritating this behavior is, scolding the baby, getting angry or overreacting will do little good.
In fact, a recent study found that 39% of parents think their baby is teasing them when he continually changes channels on the remote. Many parents are frustrated when a child engages in
such behaviors. The best bet is to maintain a calm attitude and continue with the chores.
Setting Limits on Your Child
Each age group requires a type of treatment and strategy to educate and correct.
8 to 12 months
When the baby starts to crawl, around 8 months, it’s time to think about setting boundaries. Suddenly, everything from cutlery to plugs is a great curiosity.
A child who is that age just wants to explore (he has no concept of what he should or shouldn’t do), so if you don’t want him to touch something, put it out of your reach through the child protection and let items suitable for children occupy the center of the stage.
Experts say this is the best way to help your child stay out of trouble and makes it much easier to follow the rules without having to scold the baby.
12 to 24 months
By this age, the baby’s communication skills are flourishing, so it is possible to start explaining the basic “don’t pull the kitten’s tail” rules for example.
It is also important to use the word only in serious situations, because it can wear out and, eventually, make it completely useless, requiring a scolding on the baby who will not understand.
The baby’s physical abilities are also at stake. The new walker is likely to be thrilled by his newly achieved independence and frustrated by not being able to do all the things he would like to do.
24 to 36 months
The two-year-old inaugurates the preschool program, which is great for the baby’s socialization skills , but also presents a new set of disciplinary problems. Sharing toys, time and attention is difficult at this age.
My Baby is Stubborn! How to Deal with Baby Tantrum?
Babies and young children want independence and control over their environment , more than they can handle. This can lead to conflict when a child thinks “I can do this” or “I want this, give it to me”.
When they discover that they cannot do it and cannot have everything they want, they may end up having a tantrum.
At this time, scolding the baby or child will have no effect, so here are some ideas that can help:
- Give a lot of positive attention . Get in the habit of “partying” when your child does something good. Reward your little one with excitement and affection for positive behavior.
- Try to give children a little control over little things . Offer smaller choices, such as “Do you want orange juice or lemon juice?” or “Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a shower?” This way, you are not asking “Do you want to brush your teeth now?” – which will inevitably be answered “no”.
- Keep objects out of sight and out of reach – This makes the “gear” very difficult and consequently you will not have to scold the baby. Obviously, this is not always possible, especially outside the home, where the environment cannot be controlled.
- Distract the child – Take advantage of your little child ‘s short attention span by offering something else instead of what he can’t have. Start a new activity to replace the frustrated or forbidden one. Or just change the environment. Take the child outside or go to a different room.
- Help your child learn new skills and succeed . Help the child learn to do things. Praise her for helping her feel proud of what she can do. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.
- Know the limits of the child – To avoid scolding the baby, because it does not help at all, it is important to know the limits of the child. If you know the child is tired, then avoid going out shopping or asking him to behave, as it just won’t happen.
As seen above, scolding the baby is not a very effective method of educating yourself. Children need arguments , guidance and explanations of why not to do it.
Parents often forget that despite their size and limitations, babies and children are intelligent beings who can learn without the law of the strongest. Therefore, the ideal is that above all, of any orientation or practice, calm is fundamental to obtain great results.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.