If there is a painful process for mothers and children, it is the school adaptation phase. Maybe it hurts more for the mother to have her little one for a few hours out of his eyes than the child who will know a new world. The first days are always difficult and watered with tears , which are not always the children’s not wanting to enter school. Some children are reluctant to enter in fear that their parents will not seek him out, others for the simple fact that he has never stayed away from their parents. After all, it will be in the hands of totally unknown people, in a totally new environment and crying is the child’s way of showing how insecure and afraid they are.
In other cases, it is mothers who leave their children in tears, totally insecure and afraid of how they will behave and be afraid. Usually in these cases, the children come in well and say goodbye excited to know their new routine unless they see and feel their parents insecure.
For this purpose, the school adaptation was created, which serves not only for children, but also for anxious parents who fear for their children’s behavior. Each school has its own way of adapting and the period it deems appropriate, but the vast majority agree that this process is necessary to reassure parents and children and to adapt to the new routine, including teachers to know the children. At the beginning stay 1 to 2 hours, the next day the period extends for a few more minutes and the next day another hour and until completing the week the child is already staying in the period that should stay every day until the end of the year.
The fundamental point for school adaptation to take place smoothly and without stress is that parents have complete confidence in the school in which they are leaving their child. Knowing beforehand, seeking information from other parents and visiting the school environment before classes even begin is also essential. Visiting the school in the company of the child can be even better, being able to take the opportunity to get to know the space, including checking on the safety of each environment, and showing important places such as the bathroom, board and leisure areas that will be very fun when used.
The adaptation must happen in partnership , both from parents who should encourage children showing the importance of going to school and how much fun it can be, and from teachers who must be prepared to receive students. The interest in approaching the child, the affection and even the patience to deal with cries and tantrums in the beginning are essential to bring comfort to both parents and children.
Complaints such as “I don’t want to go to school anymore” or “I don’t like the teacher or that friend” are normal and should not be taken into account , especially in the first days, after all all attempts will happen for you to give up taking it. Talking to teachers can help to understand the child’s resistance and to know how he is and how he behaves after the mother’s departure . The thing is to take a deep breath and face it, in a few days that moment will pass and the school adaptation will be another step won among you, of many yet to come.
Child at School
The school has a fundamental role in the life of a child that goes beyond literacy and the teaching of history, mathematics, geography and so on. It is at school that the child learns to socialize, divide, behave towards others and deal and live in a group. Children learn by playing , moving, climbing, climbing and doodling. It is with these activities that your motor coordination will be improved every day until you are ready for the next step, which is literacy.
It is at school that the first relationships are created, make the first friends and learn the most fun games. The first differences and sadness also occur in this phase, but everything is part of learning life and which are fundamental pieces for the construction of character and human character. Learning how to deal with good and some unpleasant situations is part of human teaching , and the way to act and face is one of the lessons.
The role of the school is not to provide good education for children, after all this is the role of parents and guardians. The school has the role of developing children, teaching, stimulating and offering knowledge . For this space to be beneficial, it is up to the parents to reinforce, participate and support everything that is taught and offered at school. The participation of parents in school life and especially working together with the school, is extremely important to build and offer quality education for all children, be it a private, state or municipal school.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.