These days I was remembering my first pregnancy, it was a very beautiful moment, but as I was always anxiety in person and of course, during pregnancy it couldn’t be different. I was remembering when I was pregnant with Joana, I was around 21 and practically just married. I lived far away from the mother to whom I am very attached and from the whole family. Anxiety during pregnancy would appear and even appear. I remember that from a very early age I was already thinking about the maternity bag , what the delivery would be like, and that around the second trimester. The anxiety in pregnancy made me think that I would like to have the baby ahead of time. Even without having any kind of experience with children, I wanted to see the belly soon, I wanted to have the baby, I wanted… it made me very bad and I had no idea of that.
I got into a pregnancy anxiety process that was making me sick, all I wanted was for the 9 months of pregnancy to end soon, I wanted everything to go flying! But why? Being pregnant was what I wanted most! In a way it is natural for this to happen, but bad thoughts crossed my mind, I had terrible nightmares and a feeling that I would suffocate! Did I even wake my husband up in the middle of the night because I just couldn’t sleep with fear, fear? Fear of what? Fear that my daughter would be born deformed, fear that I would not be able to take care of the baby after delivery, fear of delivery, fear of being at home alone and going into labor… I was even afraid of my shadow!
I got to a stage where the doctor had to intervene advising me to a psychologist who calmed me by saying that all of this was normal. It was a problem that several pregnant women went through, the dreaded stage of anxiety in pregnancy that comes from a lighter stage even before the pregnancy started. But what to do then in these cases of pregnancy anxiety? The great part of the treatment of anxiety in pregnancy is therapeutic, a psychologist is the pregnant woman’s best friendin milder cases of anxiety. I confess that the simple fact of having someone to open up with, someone who understood my pregnant neuroses comforted me a lot! She listened to me and with all the love in the world she explained to me, guided me and I started to feel better. Look, if it weren’t for this therapy treatment, I don’t know what would become of me at Joana’s birth, since there were some complications, you can see Joana’s birth report here .
How to diagnose and treat anxiety during pregnancy
Some more severe cases of anxiety in pregnancy have to be treated with medication. The doctor will weigh the benefit x risk of antidepressants and anxiolytics (rarely) to help the pregnant woman at this stage. The decision to treat with stronger medications such as fluoxetine and derivatives must be made jointly by the gynecologist who accompanies the pregnant woman and also by a psychiatrist. There are indications that high anxiety to the extreme in pregnancy can bring harm such as the baby’s growth restrictionif not treated in time, this is because the adrenaline rush can end up interfering with your growth. The old people say “To wish premature birth is to ask for it to happen”, I do not know if it has anything to do with it, but it happened with me, I so wanted it to come before the time that ended up happening! I had a premature birth, at 35 weeks and full of suffering for her and me too.
With the other pregnancies it was different, on the second I was particularly calm and very calm. The third pregnancy was more worrying because of the anxiety she felt, not like the first time, but she was still there. I believe it is due to the fact that I have high blood pressure and risk of pre-eclampsia. My pressure was not the best, but I didn’t know if it was due to anxiety or it was really physiological. Maybe one thing led to another, I felt bad and then the pressure went up, maybe that was it. The fact is that I managed to get through the pregnancy without having to take any medication for anxiety but even so my mood varied a lot. He looked like a bipolar person, we are pregnant as well! Blame the hormonal roller coaster.
Anxiety in pregnancy is very common, but how do you know that anxiety is beginning to pass acceptable limits? It is up to the pregnant woman to pay attention to the symptoms:
- Shaking for no apparent reason
- Loss of control
- Extreme crying
- Negative thoughts that are an imminent threat
When all or three of these symptoms appear more than once a month it is a sign that something is not going well. Dreams are common, but if it gets to the point of bothering you, the best thing is to go to a psychologist to talk about it. What afflicts you in pregnancy? What are your fears? Certainly a psychologist will help to take away what are often unfounded fears from the pregnant woman’s head. A risk that only those who go through the anxiety crisis during pregnancy know what it is and how it is. Pregnant husbands are people who live closely with anxiety and in this delicate moment they must be aware that it is not easy, giving hormonally as well as psychological and supporting is fundamental. Anxiety in pregnancy is not frills!
I was an anxious pregnant woman and I say with all the experience I had, do not deny your condition, help is the best thing when we feel fragile. The pregnancy is a very beautiful stage , must be lived fully, but like everything that is new and unknown can bring some fears that may get out of control.
Make your doctor your best friend in pregnancy!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.