My desire to be a MOM – Report by Cristiane Almeida

This wish came with 4 months of marriage! That was when my husband and I decided that I would not take any more medicine. And who said it would be easy? I already knew that I had a microcystic ovary, but I didn’t know it would disturb me so much. Never that my period came “right”, ruled . But when it was more than 10 days late, hope came, is it now? Because I have an agreement and do not want a false answer and also because I have an inflammation in the intestine (rectocolitis) and taking some medications, I always chose to go to the emergency room and ask to do the BHCG.

I took the exam countless times and it was always negative, or less than 1.2. I can’t say exactly how many I did, but more than 5 exams.

– Ah … But that’s not even much … It’s very yeah

To know that so many times, I thought that a being so desired, could be being generated within me, and those results were giving me a slap in the face. How it hurt! And the more time passed, the more the negative result hurt. My husband and I did all kinds of exams and I discovered that I no longer had a micro-polycystic ovary. That’s good!!! But then why can’t I get pregnant?

I started taking a medicine that helps increase ovulation. I had to take a pill from the first to the fifth day of my period. The first month I did this, and nothing. In the second month I took two pills a day (I thought that taking two could be twins, lol …). I did it for three months and nothing! We did all the exams and there was nothing to stop our dream of being parents. My doctor then said: since you want it so much, and you don’t want to wait, do an insemination.

Until I talked to my husband and we decided to talk to the priest of our church and listen to the church’s opinion about it, and make an insemination. We didn’t want to make the test tube baby! We had a reservation and as I was not working I went after the clinic indicated by my doctor. I attended the lectures and the testimonies of other couples that they had given. Some that worked on the first attempt and others only on the second.

I scheduled the return with my husband for a month later. In the meantime, we changed plans, and decided to wait a little longer. I decided to go back to work and go to college. A three-year course, then we would do the insemination. I got a job! I did an interview and was going to start in 15 days. I started working on 7/1 and on 7/2 I had a lot of colic because it was already close to my menstruation (I always suffered from colic). I was enjoying going to work, so I asked my husband to go to the emergency room, because I didn’t want to miss the third day of service.

We went to a hospital and the doctor on duty didn’t give me anything other than buscopan, and he told me that it could be gauze. But I was in pain and had already taken seekopan and it did not improve. Then my husband said let’s go to another hospital. Ah in that other the doctor already asked if I was not pregnant!

-No, Dra tried for three years and I couldn’t! I underwent treatment and nothing worked, I started working yesterday, I’m not pregnant!

I heard the phrase that marked me …

– Things happen when God wants and not when we want!

He sent me to the infirmary to take a weak medication and take an exam (BHCG). Ours had never done a bhcg with such ill will and with such certainty of a negative. I asked my husband to go to sleep in the car and went for the exam. When the nurse came, I asked if it would be long, as it was already 10 pm and we lived a little far from this hospital and the next day we had to get up early to go to work. He said it would be 1:30 am / 2:00 am. Ah how nervous! Taking an exam that goes negative. It was 01h20minh and the doctor came and asked me if she was better (I think she just gave me serum, it was the same. Rs ..) she said yes, it was much better (she wanted to leave soon) She said good , you’re pregnant!

For a second the world stopped, then she asked where’s the father? I said it’s in the car sleeping!

I no longer contained my crying, and my husband comes in and sees me crying and then he gets worried, and asks the doctor, is she all right? I realized that she was going to speak the news that I always dreamed of giving him, I screamed, you’re going to be a daddy! Everyone there was thrilled with the news! We left there with our hearts overflowing. We got to the car, yes it was crying, hugs, the sky was beautiful that night, all starry, we look and we thank God very much. We were going to be dad and mom!

It was past 23:00 and we still went to my parents’ house to tell the news and then tell my mother-in-law. Everyone was very happy, but my husband telling my mother-in-law was very different. She asked how I was doing, and my husband said that I had to do an exam and that now I would need a follow-up with a specialist, and that he would have to work hard as he was going to have some expenses! My mother-in-law was already worried and asked if it was very serious. We said it wasn’t that serious, but it was very serious! It gave the result for her to see and she didn’t know what bhcg was. Then we say: you’re going to be grandma!

I found myself so happy and unemployed again, because without knowing it, I cheated the company. I talked to my manager and said I was going to leave because I knew I couldn’t stay. She told me no, I was going to stay! So I said stay until the baby is born. Because I wanted to live every moment with my son (a). My pregnancy was wonderful, I only had nausea one day. It was all very quiet. Since the first prenatal consultation, my husband has always been present. Since the first consultation I have already told the doctor I want a normal delivery. I want to feel the pain of childbirth!

He laughed and told me that today he doesn’t have to suffer so much anymore! And I repeated: I want to feel the pain of childbirth. But I trusted him a lot (I still do).

On the day of discovering the sex of the baby, I made sure that my mother and mother-in-law were with us and
I could see perfectly well that it was a boy. It was more of a thrill. Well, behold, at 36 weeks I have a dilation finger, without feeling anything yet. He did everything and was still going to work, and was driving.

 

At 37 weeks and 3 days, I was away, but still without feeling anything but my swollen legs. Our family was happy! Carnival week and I at home at 38 weeks, I lose my cap. This day I had an appointment and he said everything was normal. With 38 weeks and 3 days I wake up at 8:00 am to go to mass and tell my husband that I was having colic, we started to count the time between one and the other and it was okay with what the doctor passed us. We thought it was time, I went to have coffee, shower and my husband went to shave, because I didn’t want him to appear in the bearded photo.

I called my doctor and we went to the hospital. I arrived there with 4 dilation fingers and contractions increasing, but my concern was not to leave the eye pencil and lipstick, because it had to be beautiful for the arrival of such a special person! The pain was so great that it came out all over. At 2:10 pm my son Lucas, so loved and dreamed, came into the world . The best feeling I had in life was when I gave birth. I know that some do not want, cannot or cannot. But I think that it would not be so accomplished if I had not had a normal delivery. Doubly realized dream!

See also:  The Discovery of Pregnancy – Report by Joseane Simão

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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.

Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

Dr. Alexis Hart

My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother. Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

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