Dealing with the return to work after childbirth affects the woman a lot. And then talking to a friend, I told her that I abandoned everything when I got pregnant with my oldest daughter, of course I always had the support of my husband. I even had a nice job and although I was in the company for a short time I felt at home, but I decided to renew the contract to terminate to take care of the pregnancy and baby. Marcos has always been a partner, in fact his opinion has contributed a lot to me giving up my professional life outside the home to dedicate myself to educating and taking care of our daughter exclusively. Time passed and I ventured into various things for extra income and always something that could be both pleasant, both to take care of Joana and to earn some money and buy my treats.
Well, after a few years Eduardo was born and it became more complicated to continue what he was doing, so I stopped for good and “just” took care of them, I mean only, but all mothers, even those who work outside, know how much we work together to taking care of everything, home, child, doctor … I do not regret any of everything I did, even postponing my studies to a dreamed photography career that was and is my love besides my children.
I had the privilege of taking care of my children as babies and I am about to release my last daughter to school, Melissa will go to the school and I thank God and my husband every day that I was able to take care of her and monitor her growth at home. Today I work with photography, and of course I dedicate my time to the blog, but these are activities in which I still have the privilege of following the children’s daily lives and schedules, in the lesson, in food, in their activities. But who said that full-time mothers don’t work? How did they make this important decision and the support of the family?
Readers Luciane, Márcia, Aristela and Rosane shared their decision to leave work outside the home to keep up with the growth and care for their children, see their testimony on that day.
Luciane (Giovanna’s mom)
”The main factor was the one that torments all moms who have to go back to work: separation. Breastfeeding was also an important factor, but what really determined me was that, at that moment, it was not financially or psychologically worth giving up to accompany my daughter’s growth, giving up being a full-time mother as I had always dreamed to do. work out. My husband and I talked a lot about it, weighed the pros and cons and he said it was my decision and that he would support it. But 2 years later, I started to charge a little bit for my return to work. I even tried, I worked for almost a year. But I was unhappy. We had a new conversation and decided that the best thing was for me to stay home. Today I have his full support regarding my decision. And he makes me very comfortable with my access to our money. We have a partnership: He works outside the home, and I work at home, taking care of our daughter and our home.
The greatest importance for me is undoubtedly being close to my daughter, taking care of her education, without having to outsource anything. At first I confess that it was a little stressful. Staying at home all day, not having so many subjects to talk about except bottles and diapers but as she grew up, she became more independent, I see that it was the best thing I did.One situation I still face because I made the decision to stop working is prejudice. People today think that women are forced to work outside the home. The impression is that being a housewife is not an honorable thing, it is not a job, it has no value. I heard a lot of criticism even from relatives. They think I stay at home sleeping all day…. I think that each person is born with a skill, women can be great mothers and great professionals at the same time. There are those who just want to be great professionals and there are those who choose to be just great mothers.
Márcia (Marina’s Mom)
For work reasons, it wouldn’t be worth paying someone to take care of her, she got paid very little and if she were going to pay someone it wouldn’t be worth it , and the school didn’t have the courage to let me really want to enjoy that moment with my daughter after everything I’ve been through with Tiffany. I wanted to be with Marina every second. My husband thought it was normal, even because we had no other option, I needed someone to trust and I didn’t have it, so that was the best solution at that time, it was very good to be able to stay with her, I was able to enjoy every moment, every day, every evolutionthings tightened up a little but I was getting unemployment insurance when unemployment insurance ended up looking for another job she was already 1 year and 2 months old. It was also important for her to go back to work, she stayed at the private school and was always very good there and loved everything and even today she is very good. in the school and a time comes when the child needs to live with other children.
Aristela (Arthur’s Mom)
I stopped working for lack of someone to trust to be with him . The distance from home / work also weighed in the decision and the cost / benefit ratio. But the main factor was the lack of courage to leave my baby. My husband supported me completely, he was fundamental in my decision. The greatest importance is to see its development , to closely monitor each novelty, each advance.
Rosane (Mummy of Mel and Lunna)
The main factor at the time was the fear of leaving the baby in the hands of others and losing all of its growth and development as I lost in the first daughter who did not have the option to stop working. My husband was very supportive, as he saw my suffering at the time of my first daughter and saw that it would be the best decision at the moment, even though I had to tighten my finances at the time.
For me it was time to enjoy every second, every step, detail, I would do it all over again. But like most families, only one job, things get very tight and soon I went back to work, but as I didn’t want to work outside and leave the children anymore, I chose the home office, invented thousands of things to do at home and reconcile care mother and daughters , with my professional life and for my joy it worked out super. Today I am very happy, because I earn my money, I occupy my head with things beyond the house and I enjoy every detail of my daughters to the fullest, I participate in everything in their lives. “
I think it is worth talking to your partner, if you have the opportunity and feel good about the decision why not? sometimes a year’s time can be so beneficial for you and your baby in this adaptation phase that it helps a lot in professional performance afterwards. But if you can’t leave your professional life behind, you’ll have a post soon about working moms. I hope you enjoyed!
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See also: Mommy and Housewife Routine
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.