Mother Jealous of Baby
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Jealousy is not an uncommon feeling for humans, but for moms who have just become pregnant or giving birth, it can become a source of suffering , both for them and for those around them wanting to drool this woman’s child, who in Sometimes, she is very sweet and, it would not be different with your baby.
However, a thousand changes in life take place at this stage, an immense feeling of love will arise. An unexplained love, which takes many women by surprise, because they do not even imagine that there can be such intense and strong love in life.
So instead of pregnancy or birth being a cause for celebration among family and friends, it can be a reason for bad feelings for mom , even making the person feel bad for having some thoughts that are considered selfish even by Is it over there. But what could cause the mother to be so jealous of the baby with other family members and even with the baby’s father, grandmothers, etc.?
When Does the Feeling of Jealousy Appear?
When a woman is already jealous even before she becomes pregnant, it is common for the feeling to arise even before the baby is born. But the baby’s feeling of jealousy may be independent of whether the mother is already jealous, it may still appear during pregnancy, but it is more common for the feeling to arise after delivery. Many women find themselves thinking:
– So-and-so won’t touch my baby – I won’t let beltrano take my son – the mother-in-law can’t stay on top of my son, I don’t want anyone to give guesses about my baby …
It is not uncommon that after the baby is born, the mother spends help from family members such as mother-in-law, sisters-in-law, friends, even her own mother and in some extreme cases, the baby’s father, her partner.
Why Does Baby Jealousy Appear?
This is because the feeling she has at this moment is somehow lossy. Loss? Yea! The feeling of jealousy happens because before, during pregnancy, your baby depended 100% on everything. It was kept in her womb and, in it, she received everything she needed exclusively from her.
Right after birth, it is essential, of course, but it is not indispensable. Before the baby was hers and now? She has to share it with other people, such as friends, family, no matter how dear they are.
Everyone wants to pick him up, bathe him, change his diapers and clothes, they stay around almost full time. Before, who was just an individual, becomes 2 people, and the feeling of having to share, for some people may not be that easy to deal with.
In a way, the baby becomes the target of the mother’s possessiveness , even if this feeling is 99.9 involuntary. Now, she doesn’t want anyone to approach her baby, and she can be hostile in certain situations because she wants to continue taking care of her baby 100% of the time, even though she is still recovering from delivery.
It is not easy to see your greatest love, the one you never imagined feeling, in the arms of other people, mother-in-law, sisters-in-law, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. Although everyone is happy, this woman feels invaded, even stolen in the happiest moment of her life.
How to Deal With Baby Jealousy
The only person who suffers most from mother’s jealousy after giving birth is the mother herself. The baby that has just arrived is the target of love for all the family members that circulate this pregnant woman who now becomes a mother. Detachment must be worked on as soon as it begins to appear, still in pregnancy or still in maternity.
Usually when the mother feels strange, when commenting with the obstetrician, she will recommend a conversation with the psychologist while still in the maternity ward , as this feeling should be cut off as soon as it appears. The feeling of possession must be understood by family members, of course. However, the woman has to understand that the baby is now part of a social environment, and this is fundamental.
Family members also have to respect this feeling of women. If she puts some rules, it is essential that everyone respect it. Including her husband. The breastfeeding moment, for example, is essential to be respected, at that moment mother and child are getting to know each other, understanding each other and looking at each other. But it is important that the woman allows other people to help her take care of her baby, as it is a healthy exercise to work excess jealousy.
It is important to remember that jealousy for the child will always exist. Throughout life, we will have to deal with the feeling of loss, whether for the grandmother, aunts, friends, school, teachers until the moment when the former child, now becomes a boy or girl and begin to relate romantically with other people. The important thing is to know how to deal with the feeling of jealousy, as soon as it appears , whatever the stage, pregnancy or postpartum, do not be ashamed to seek help.
But when is jealousy of the baby’s father?
It is very common for parents to be jealous of the baby with the mother. This is because now she will give almost exclusive attention to her child that has just been born, her husband is often left behind. This confusion is more common in situations of first child, the father feels neglected, loses his place that was previously exclusive.
His wife, before him alone, suddenly has to share attention with a young boy or girl who has just arrived . This feeling is normal, however, as well as the hand, the father must work on this feeling, as it can hinder the relationship with the son, to develop love for his baby who has just arrived.
It is important to remember that the man becomes a father when the baby is born, as he will only be able to feel what the woman feels during pregnancy, after childbirth. As always, a psychologist can be consulted.
See also: Behavior – When a Couple Becomes a Family and Jealous
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.