Life of father and mother is an eternal adventure, we can even compare to video game! The more we think it’s coming to the end of the stage, the more difficult the stage gets. So it is also with the children and their behavioral changes that change when they reach each age group, but one thing that never changes is never “wanting” them. With a lot of play, patience and wisdom, we parents have to know how to deal with the blessed phrase: “I want!”.
In the first year of life, as soon as they learn to speak and have their own desires and desires, the famous “I want” sounds like a constant horn in the parents’ ears. Giving everything they ask for we know is not healthy, but how do we deal with and teach no in their lives? How to act with the will of children that is something constant and how to teach that we cannot have everything we desire? In a simple trip to the supermarket if we do not know how to deal with the situation, it can become a stressful and also embarrassing moment. Upon hearing an order for something that he cannot buy at the moment or simply because he does not need it, the child goes into a nervous breakdown, of tantrums and makes a real show of tantrums and screams. Who has never been there or at least seen this scene in their life ?!
It is not easy for those who pass, especially because of the embarrassing looks and judgmental comments on the situation. However, the fact is that we have to learn to deal with and act under these circumstances and if possible teach and advise before it even happens. Not giving everything your children ask for contrary to many opinions around the world, does not mean that you do not love your child or love less than the one who wins everything. On the contrary! Not giving everything your child asks for, teaches him to have value in everything and to be aware that it is necessary to strive to conquer.
Children grow up all over the world without any value, in a world of futility and facilities, walking towards an empty adult life without foci. Result of a childhood without limits and with all your wishes fulfilled instantly, all in the name of love. It is really not easy to say no to a child, especially when you are able to give what you want, but questioning whether it is necessary and what will help you is essential in order not to raise futile, spoiled children who own the world.
When they grow up, they are faced with the naked, raw and cruel truth that did not spare them as their parents always did. When they grow up, they discover that life does not give anything for free , let alone give everything to what they want and at the time they want. He discovers that everything he lived up to that moment was a colorful life, with wishes fulfilled, but all of lies, after all, life is not quite like that.
The old phrase “raise your child for the world” may be hard on the heart of a mother and father, but it is quite true. When we are educating a child, it is not just for our home, our friends and family, but for them to grow as a good citizen who will know how to live, respect and live alongside unknown people in unnecessary frustrations.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.