Being a mother is incredible but the moment to enter this world must come from within the woman.
Being a mother is not always a woman’s dream, but when the desire to generate a life or take care of someone hits, many doubts and fears arise together. How do you know that when you are a mother, a woman is prepared? There are several doubts about how to get pregnant , how to do it after the baby is born, how the relationship with the husband or partner stays after the baby is born… There are so many factors that change in life that motherhood can be postponed as a result of these changes.
For a woman, motherhood begins in childhood, we are encouraged to play with dolls, houses and the like to awaken the maternal side. Since childhood, the games of mom and son are the favorites of some girls and then we can see that the instinct of motherhood was born with that girl and that choosing the moment to be a mother will not be so complicated . But for some women it is not so, knowing that the moment of being a mother is approaching is still a mystery. Especially nowadays when the priority is more and more focused on the professional career and motherhood is left for later and later. The question of many women is how they will fare as a mother:will I do it? Will I be a good mother? How will pregnancy and childbirth be and after all that, how will I manage maternity and also work, home and everything around? More than natural questions for a moment so important in life that it is having one or more children.
I want to be a mother, what do I need to know?
Being a mother still involves not only the psychological part, but also the structural part of life, being prepared for all the changes and expenses that a child brings along with the responsibility of taking care of a helpless being that depends entirely on us mothers and fathers. Speaking of parents… Doubts and more doubts appear for the woman and several times for the couple. The man is more susceptible to doubts in relation to fatherhood than the woman in relation to motherhood. The truth is that the father is born with the child and for some the surprise of the news of the pregnancy can shake the psychological a little. There are men who do not accept pregnancy immediately because of the weight of the responsibility of having a child, but in other cases they are men who have never really thought about having a child.
There are cases in which both are crazy to have children and others that the couple has no desire at all, but the desire to become pregnant appears over time, it is the biological clock! Therefore, the ideal is for a couple to make the most of what they have to enjoy to travel, stroll and have fun, because from the moment a family is formed, the world turns to the little ones who arrived. Of course, the life of those who have children does not stop, the person does not die to the social world after the children! There are still possibilities to stroll and have fun but I guarantee that the priorities are totally different than those of a couple without children.
For women like me who had no contact with children, not on a daily basis taking care of one before becoming a mother, motherhood can be a little scary, but you know? Motherhood changes the woman, it is as if a new person was born in the delivery room with the baby. The woman has the incredible ability to learn to care for her children as soon as she gives birth. Catch, change and even give the bath with dexterity! I was really surprised even though I paid some really hilarious monkeys as a first-time mom . Between the dead and the wounded all were saved!
Being a mother is giving up as I said in this post and determining the moment to enter the maternity hospital is an internal decision and should not be taken on impulse or simple family pressure. Being a mother brings to the woman’s world a different perspective of everything that life gives you, all concerns are turned to the new life that has arrived. I usually say that even women who have a heavy sleep, after being a mother start to wake up to any sigh of the baby.
Adoption is one of the ways of being a mother, the only difference is that the child is ready! Love is the same, the concerns of a foster mother are the same as biological mothers. For adoptive mothers, pregnancy is the stage of procedures and procedures, anxiety is the same as that of pregnancy. Choosing the right moment and knowing if you are ready is quite easy, just look inside yourself and ask yourself: Do I want to be a mother? If the answer is YES then play! Motherhood is the highlight of a woman’s life.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.