I want to be a mother! With me it was as natural as breathing. As a child myself, I already knew that getting pregnant, being a mother would be part of my life. Since I got along with people, I played with my dolls and changed their clothes, wondering what it would be like to become mom. I dreamed of the day when I would find my prince charming and form a beautiful family . It just didn’t count that the dream of being a mother could be so fought over. I want to be a mother, but things don’t happen as I imagined!
I couldn’t know before that I would have as many difficulties to get pregnant as I did. It took 7 years of trying. For some it seems little, after all, it was 7 years distributed over 3 children. Some women still spend this period to become pregnant with their first child . But I guarantee: the suffering is the same! Do you think that counting endless cycles is simple? Do you think that waiting for things to happen is that comfortable? Waiting is not so simple. The nerves are on edge and not to mention the expectation and fear of not being able to get pregnant.
The first pregnancy was in shock. I didn’t know that I could get pregnant even if I took contraceptives. Accepting this new condition was not that difficult, since I would love to be a mother and always. Unfortunately the pregnancy did not evolve and at 11 weeks my angel returned to heaven …
I want to be a mother but will it be easy?
When Joana’s pregnancy happened, it was incredible. Despite the fear of losing again, we try to take the pregnancy without charges and expectations. When the 5th month of pregnancy arrived, yes, we relaxed a little more and enjoyed the pregnancy. I never imagined that being pregnant could be so beautiful … I imagined myself pregnant, but the magic and rewards of this condition did not. I was really taken by surpriseso I got excited for other times. Despite when the second pregnancy happened, when Dudu was born, he caught me saying, I don’t want any more children. I paid for my tongue! How I was wrong … I wanted to be a new mother! I imagined that at 41 years old I would have two adult children, so I could enjoy life with them and also with my husband. Go to parties and clubs without worries. I was on the opposite path from many women I know, but I don’t regret anything! Will I take advantage of what life has to offer later, and the profession? I take it with the maternity ward. It is more laborious, but equally rewarding. Being a mother is wonderful, but it’s not without blame, fears are quite a lot of work too.
Shortly after the birth I was surprised thinking: I want to be a mother again! And of course Marcos also had this desire. Proof of this is the resistance to permanent sterilization methods such as vasectomy . Although we already had 2 fruits of our love, we still had love to give. He loves his children and even more a new baby, which he can spoil until he says enough. We started trying to get pregnant with the third child to close the factory for good . The intention was really this time to do the tubal ligation so as not to fall into temptation. We are almost full-time parents.
We just take time to work and of course, to be alone. After all, before the children, we were 2 before the children and we want to keep our moments together, as one of the priorities. But the final pregnancy took so long to happen that we even thought about giving up. When we finally made it, we were incredulous, I was incredulous. Was that weak line on the pregnancy test really true? At the end of the inquiries, we received the new phase with joy, and after a pregnancy full of problems due to increased pressure, Melissa was born strong and healthy. Despite the fears that 3 children bring , the joys were much greater and are still today. I melt due to the smile in my children’s eyes, my happiness is seeing them healthy and full of life and each new achievement they make.
Being a mother means having infinite responsibilities, countless concerns, having to make time for everything and still do everything running. Not being able to go to the bathroom for 5 minutes without a hand knocking on the door to enter. Being a mother is never being alone for whatever, bad times and especially good times.
The way to motherhood was natural, we didn’t want to waste time when that moment came, but the problems I had because I wanted to be a mother were countless. Not because of criticism for my age (I was young, I was 20 years old), but because of the frustrations I had in the way of the attempts. But do you know? Nowadays if they asked me: Do you want to be a mother yet? I would say: Yes, I want to be a mother again! I would do everything, all over again , because, I know that if I did something different, I wouldn’t have the children I have today. I am grateful to God and to life for awakening this desire for motherhood so soon. It was like that with me and now I want to know about you. How did your desire to be a mother come about? How and when did you say loud and clear: I want to be a mother? Leave it in the comments!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.