I felt like a real ET when, among my trying friends, I was the only one who was still waiting for my turn to get pregnant. I wondered how they got it? Why was it that only I had not yet been remembered by God? How to become pregnant was difficult … Could it be that there was a secret that I had not yet discovered? Many things were going through my head and, at the same time, sadness and anxiety eroded me absurdly.
The worst thing about this tempting phase is really the frustration of trying so long without success. But one day, my positive came! The joy I felt is inexplicable and with it came all the memories of the time when I was the only one to wait for my miracle. So I am here today, to remind women who are still tempting, that the things that life holds are very useful as a lesson, try to learn as much as possible from everything that happens. So, let’s go to the lessons I learned:
How to get pregnant? Is there a secret that no one has yet discovered? Can we control this event? How can I be less anxious and calmer? How do you have the patience to wait for such an important and desired moment in life? Questions I asked myself and now, calmer and after a few years analyzing the life of a tentant, I came to several conclusions:
Anxiety : this is the main villain and constant companion of the tempter. Discovering the secret of how to control is for a few. However, it is impossible for an anxious woman to stop feeling anxiety when tempted . It will not just go away even if a doctor prescribes a powerful anxiolytic. It helps to control but does not make it disappear completely. Working with anxiety is a daily exercise and not only in the aspect of getting pregnant, thinking that things are not under your total control and that everything will happen at your own time is fundamental.
Remember women who have waited for years for pregnancy, sometimes 1, 2, 5, 10, 12 years… But at some point she arrives and there is no point in being anxious waiting, because the wear is very emotionally and physically too . Have you noticed that anxiety is greater after the fertile period? So try to direct your time and thoughts to other areas of your life, even if at this stage you have to isolate yourself from groups and virtual friends who have to do with the subject getting pregnant. Keeping calm is critical and it will make a huge difference, you will see.
Fertile period: For some women, the fertile period is a mystery. But knowing where he is and how it will happen is a fundamental secret of how to get pregnant. There is no use trying and trying if you try the wrong way. It is important to maintain relationships at the right time, on the days when you are fertile. For this, the body gives signals even if you are the most uncontrolled of women (in the menstrual matter, of course). For those who have regular cycles, the fertile period is easier to find, it will be approximately from 10 to 17 days of your cycle for women with cycles of 28 to 30 days. Calculate the 14th day of the cycle as the most fertile and date 3 days before and after because the fertile period is 7 days. For irregular cycles the important thing is to pay attention to the body, it will indicate fertility through mucus, temperature and even pain. The more fertile it is, the more the mucus in the vagina will become elastic. I indicate a very useful post to learn how to check fertility, the Billings method.
What’s the Biggest Secret of All?
It is actually not just a secret. There are little things that we can see that have become a little secret to reaching the goal: getting pregnant. The first of all is to check the possibility of the couple having a problem. See, I said the couple! Several times the “problem” is in man, either due to a low sperm count, or due to another hormonal problem, etc. Therefore, it is essential that the couple undergo pre-pregnancy tests or if they have tried for more than a year without success.
Another little secret is to use and abuse the methods that are available to make pregnancy easier. Let’s say that it is giving nature a strength. Ovulation tests and also gels that help fertility like Pree seed and Conceive Plus for example.
Faith is the biggest secret. Knowing that God will send your pregnancy at the right time is very heartwarming. Ask him for signs! If you trust His will, you will be safe when the real signs appear. A different mucus, an intuition that you don’t know where it comes from, feeling a different body… The important thing is to never lose faith and hope . Know that all this is VERY important for those who want to get pregnant. Be calm, follow your heart and never lose hope!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.