The dream of many women is to get pregnant, to have a beautiful, big and healthy belly. The problem is when infertility is present in the couple’s life. Often this infertility, which is for no reason or apparent cause and dealing with this situation, becomes a problem. Infertility is a burden for women who desperately want to become pregnant.
At first everything seems to be very difficult, dealing with infertility is not an easy thing that we were born with. In fact, like all difficulties in life, infertility never seems to have a solution . But it is not quite like that! Women and even men affected by infertility must be aware that it is mostly fortunately it is a transitional phase . Infertility can be caused by several factors in particular, unexpected and specific illnesses of that person. It can also be caused by external reasons such as the use of some substance that causes infertility to increase at a certain point in reproductive life. The important thing to overcome the difficulties of this phase is to be aware that all is not lost.
Usually doctors give about a year for the couple to get pregnant naturally. When this period is exceeded, then one must consider the possible infertility of one of the parties or both. For this, it is important to start the investigation by proposing simple and also the most specific exams, such as the sperm test for men and hysterosalpingography and so many others for women. Even before the end of the first year of trying, it is advisable for the couple to do some simpler tests such as hormones and ultrasound for example. These tests will give an early diagnosis if there is something wrong with the hormonal part or in the uterus as a morphological alteration (bicornuate uterus) or more severe problems such as endometriosis or polycystic ovaries.
The fact is that the wave of emotions that accompany these exams and this phase can be too much for some couples or for some women. We are not always prepared to hear a diagnosis of infertility, whether with an apparent cause or not. The ups and downs are identical with the feelings of a woman who wants to get pregnant very badly. That is why it is important to remain calm no matter how difficult it is at this moment. The feeling of withdrawal and helplessness can have a great influence when a diagnosis of infertility appears. Many couples despair and think they will never be biological parents, but believe me, despair is the worst thing that can happen.
Calm must be maintained so that all other procedures are done and if necessary, seek a fertility specialist. There are great professionals who help a lot, both physically and psychologically, as they are prepared to deal with couples who really want to have a baby and face problems. Unlike traditional gynecologists who simply pass the exams and can give a diagnosis which would not be within reach of adequate treatment.
Psychological and Fertility Go Hand in Hand!
The real problem with fertility becomes even more serious when the psychological of the woman or the couple begins to be shaken by the charge to themselves or to the partner. Dealing with this guilt issue is relatively complicated, as guilt can become a villain for any couple who want to get pregnant. The important thing is to know that no one has problems with fertility because they want to, and neither is it intentional. If the pregnancy does not arrive, it is not the fault of either, but a greater force hindering that this moment finally happens.
The union of the couple at this moment is essential to face the situation. Mutual support is important to be able to overcome barriers, whatever they may be, until reaching pregnancy. Also keeping a limit on attempts is important to know when the couple or the woman is crossing limits. These rules must be discussed and established between men and women so that they do not exceed physical, emotional and financial resources.
When a couple really wants to have a baby, it seems that the world around them decides to get pregnant. As it is a delicate moment, booking events that involve children and babies can safeguard those who have problems with fertility. Give yourself the right not to participate in the friend’s son’s first year party, explain the situation and he will certainly understand. In fact, telling about the attempts is a key point! When the family or friends demand for a baby becomes too great, exposing the problems with fertility should be studied. This way the charges will be much lower because the relatives and friends will know that it is a delicate subject and will avoid inviting them to some events that can hurt the tempting couple.
Always remember, fertility problems do not mean you are sterile! Looking for a good professional who understands you and who knows how to deal with the situation will make all the difference. Stay complicit with your partner and face any obstacle together, this will certainly lessen the pain of waiting !
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.