Guilt Feeling – Two Mothers Point of View

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Nowadays a great majority of women have their profession and face intense workloads, where their salary is extremely necessary to supplement the family income or even to face all the family expenses alone. And in this rush we still have to face our emotional, which charges us all the time to pay more attention to our children. The desire is to throw everything up and enjoy the whole day, enjoy every second of their lives and be a full-time mother. But what about responsibilities? There comes the division of priorities in the head, the excessive demand of ourselves and guilt.

The feeling of guilt is inevitable for mothers who have a double shift , and they have to face the problem regardless of the work and the amount of hours. Whether it is full-time or part-time work, whether traveling or home office, work requires a lot of our time and dedication and often ends up extending for a longer period than it should, out of necessity.

And when the hours are over and our children are still in full swing wanting attention? The day was not very good, several problems that left your head boiling, your head is bursting and suddenly you unload on who you love most in life? She screams and asks to stop and just like that she ends up seeing in their eyes the disappointment and sadness that they upset Mom and worse, they can’t get her attention as they would like.

The feeling of guilt invades the soul, you feel like going into a hole and hiding with shame, and sadness for your action so unthinkable runs through your eyes. For us mothers this had been on the head for some time, bothering, hurting, but for them a hug and an apology will be enough to forget, after all, they know how tired Mom is. We mothers even  try to be heroines and embrace the world, trying to resolve all the issues around us, but all we are is warrior women, who tire, cry, feel sad and ugly and have a few seconds just to catch their breath and face battle again, but we did it.

We are envied by men, for our ability to love, care and resolve everything at the same time and no one in this world will be able to take our job. The business is to continue facing the battle, working and loving intensely as we do every day.

By: Rosane Gonzalez

Guilt of a Mother Who Wants to Embrace the World …

These days are very cruel in relation to a mother’s domestic life… In the time of my grandmothers and their mothers and their mother, most of the daily obligation was just to take care of the children and the house with zeal, affection and ready , task accomplished. Her main part of life was not the easiest, but she focused on educating children and often just that when she had a provider present, her husband. The fruits of marriage were the main focus of a woman’s life and which, over time, has been taken over by other tasks of modern daily life. In fact, I think we made things a little more complicated.

 

The time with the children became smaller and smaller and the daily tasks changed with the emancipation of the woman who took on greater proportions in the 70s. With my mother, taking care of the children was getting more difficult, since she had to work to care to help care for children. With me, this time with the children got even shorter … Although working at home always provides an eye on children and the other at work, most of the time it is a difficult task to reconcile. Being a mother and professional brings to us women a very high demand and then the feeling of guilt appears overwhelming! I calculate what a woman who works outside the home feels like.

The frustration of not being able to do the way I would like to do any of the tasks that I am willing to do with the children and for the work does bring a strange feeling of not being able to cope. Perhaps it is due to the tiredness of everyday life, the exhausting routine in which we have to submit to the amount of chores in and out of professional life.and also familiar. When everything is going well in health ok, we go into the rush but what about when the disease hits the family? It seems that the world turns her friend’s head over. Leaving our little ones at home and still leaving for another day of work may not be the easiest mission in the world, but it needs to be done. If they are well taken care of, whether by their grandmother, aunt, friend or nanny, we give our hearts to them and in little dogs we go on towards the daily battle of life.

Don’t we charge ourselves too much? Couldn’t life be a little easier? Wouldn’t the feeling of guilt at having to leave the priority education of our little ones not be less if the journey was less prolonged? The desire we have is to embrace the world like an octopus, but we lack the awareness that we only have one pair of arms and a very big heart, which is disproportionate, but like everything, we will always find a way.

Ah if the world were simpler as it used to be …

By: Patricia Amorim

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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.

Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

Dr. Alexis Hart

My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.

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