Ah, this anxiety when it comes to getting pregnant. So how to control this anxiety to get pregnant more easily? I already said in a post of mine about my life as a temptress , that I tried for a long time, I still consider myself a temptress and in this world of tempestants what I saw most was the pregnant world around all of us who tried to get pregnant. But do you know how to control anxiety? On the day of the reader I talked to the psychologist Natália Melleiro and she gave tips on how to control anxiety when it comes to getting pregnant.
“ Months… years of trying and nothing happens!
The doctor says that everything is in order with the couple. Exams, ok. You control ovulation , basal temperature , ovulation tests , cervical mucus , everything in order, intercourse on the right day, symptoms appear, hopes renew and… NOTHING! The “monthly visit” appears and the frustration is complete. In the midst of all this, the demands of families and friends for a baby begin, after all, you have been married for a long time and it is past time to have a pregnancy. And in that moment, you feel that the villain in your story is yourself, after all, you are the one who does not get pregnant. Among so many guesses and opinions, one appears that makes you reflect: “Your anxiety is getting in the way!”Here comes the question: How to be different? What to do to be less anxious? , Will controlling my anxiety make things easier? ”
The desperate desire to become pregnant causes the vast majority of women to change their routines, their focuses, their thoughts and, most importantly, change the way they feel and face the world. Overkill? Not even. Whoever is in this fight knows what I’m talking about. Impossible to think of anything else. Bellies appear everywhere, babies appear everywhere. The world decides to get pregnant, and very easily. You spend hours and hours researching tips on how to get pregnant, on the day of ovulation the husband cannot “fail”, the boring cousin got pregnant…
Anyway, the world really seems to be against you! What we fail to notice is that, changing the routine, bringing attempts to get pregnant to the main stage of life, you are no longer a priority and become a background within yourself. It definitely does nothing good! Anxiety dominated you and, inevitably, the consequences of it end up hurting you imperceptibly. This “anxiety” thing, uncontrolled their hormones and, it is not for nothing that many women start to have irregular cycles after they decide to become pregnant.
Anxiety also alters the vaginal PH, leaving the vagina more acidic. Acidic vagina kills sperm and without them to fertilize the egg, nothing done. If by chance, the sperm bypass the vaginal acidity and the state of body tension ( we get tense, release adrenaline ) and manage to fertilize the egg, such anxiety can still prevent the pregnancy from progressing. We can spend hours and hours discussing here the harms of anxiety in the life of a woman who wants to get pregnant. The barriers that anxiety creates, go far beyond the emotional, they also trigger physical and hormonal reactions. Therefore, you are now your greatest enemy, your greatest obstacle. Anyway, it is not the world that is against you!
Sending you to have passion fruit juice will not solve your problem. Talking is easy, everyone talks. Learning to control emotions is what they are. We can’t change your story, your feelings, but we can show you some easier ways with a few simple tips:
Avoid saying that you are trying to get pregnant, as people knowingly will ask and this ends up being another source of pressure.
Avoid negative thoughts like “everyone gets pregnant, except me”, “I think I’ll never make it”, “I’ll give up”
Look for a hobby, do some regular activity, it helps to blur our thoughts and spend a few pleasant hours doing what we like. Performing activities helps you to relax, a therapeutic massage, a good book, conversation with friends, a dance, a walk in the mall,…
Be your priority. Take time for yourself, take care of yourself, take care of the woman who lives inside you.
Be body, soul and thought in the relationship with your partner, give yourself to the moment, leave to worry about the rest much later.
Date without commitment!
I know, it is very complicated not to connect one thing to the other, but we have to try. Dating refers to strolling together, playing a movie, traveling, in short, enjoying the relationship that can be very shaken by all this pressure.
Talk to your husband, share that moment, listen to what he feels, use this to unite even more, because this phase is not just for the woman, it is for the couple. The more you get stronger the easier it will be to go through it.
Talk to your doctor about herbal remedies for anxiety control.
Try to avoid stressful situations and reduce the ones that exist in your daily life.
Exercise, physical activities release endorphins that cause a feeling of well-being and joy. In addition to being good for your health, it helps relieve tension and stress.
Learn how to breathe better, take a deep breath, that of filling your lungs exhaling through your nose and releasing it through your mouth, it helps a lot, especially in those moments of crisis, when you are not able to relax at all.
Eat well, in a healthy way, avoid too much sugar, fried food and caffeine. At this stage, it can also be good to take care of the food, as these foods, in addition to contributing to weight gain, make us more agitated. Regular visits to the doctor and exposing your doubts is always important. Feeling well accompanied is also critical at these times.
It is not easy, we know it! But it is necessary for things to flow in the most natural way possible. Do your part and allow nature to do hers! Good luck! ”
Dra Natália Melleiro Sampaio Psychologist – CRP: 06/114345 Contact email: [email protected]
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.