Sometimes that fear strikes … Will I be able to get pregnant? Which temptant or woman who wants to generate a lot that never felt bad and with these questions that keep echoing inside the head? But did you know that fear of not being able to get pregnant can harm this phase? I was very afraid of not being able to get pregnant anymore. Although I already had one or two children, the second or third time I tried to get pregnant, deep inside I was overcome with despair at not being able to. Then, I wonder who doesn’t have any children ! What should this woman think? What will it be like to deal with this inner and sometimes external conflict by charging people for pregnancy?
The fact is that waiting and fear of not being able to get pregnant become a shadow in the woman’s life. It is often years of unsuccessful attempts and for other women the pregnancy even happens, but then spontaneous abortion or some other problem interrupts this joy. Sometimes I thought that I didn’t feel entitled to be sad and apprehensive about my second or third pregnancy . I didn’t feel good about wanting so much and charging me so much and in the same way or even more than a woman who doesn’t have children. Was it fair? After all, I had 2 beautiful children and charged me for the third.
What are the stages of the fear of not getting pregnant?
The stages of fear of not getting pregnant are practically the same for all women who want a baby very much. Optimism reigns first! The first cycle of attempts is the mildest for most women, then, when the time starts to pass, we fear for not getting it soon. After the initial stage, around the 3rd or 5th cycles of attempts, we started to think that something was wrong. After all, I should have already done it, it’s 5 cycles! The anxiety stage begins shortly thereafter . Each fertile period is a collection festival with the husband so as not to miss any day of the fertile period. The fear of losing ovulation in that cycle torments even the most calm of women.
After the period of distress, there can be two stages, that of optimism or depression. Who has never felt weak and powerless in the face of a cycle in which it did not work again? From there we took strength, we don’t know where to keep trying. For some it is a phase in which taking a break is the way out . Then the fear of the negative and also the fear of not being able to get pregnant comes out of the head completely for at least a few cycles. I even think it’s fundamental that we take this break. When attempts exceed 12 cycles or 1 year, the tiredness of all that waiting weighs on the shoulders. So for some it’s time to take a break or start a new stage in the life of a tentant, the battery of exams.
Depending on the doctor who monitors this stage, emotions may differ from couple to couple. It can encourage or frighten and it is up to the couple or woman to choose a new medical opinion. Some doctors do not guide in the way they should and then, there can further confuse the woman or couple. So don’t even argue, didn’t you answer correctly or what did you expect? Look for another doctor until you find one that will make you positive with safety and patience. Believe me, a good professional makes all the difference.
But how is the psychological in all this? We have to learn to deal with him, there is no other way. Some are better resolved with this issue. Others need more help! At these times, a psychologist can make such a difference … If you can’t find a professional, then join women who go through the same situation! They will understand you very well and will not judge you for feeling bad when a friend of yours manages to get pregnant without even trying.
What is the best solution? Stop and breathe! It is no use staying all day thinking about the possibility of never getting pregnant. When in doubt roll up your sleeves and go to the fight! There are several procedures that will let the doctor know if something is wrong. Remember that the couple should investigate. You with hormonal exams, ultrasound and he hormonal and also a spermogram. It’s all right? Now just calculate the fertile period and date with a lot of love. Did you give any unexpected diagnosis? It’s time to hit the brakes and treat! Also be aware that a leaf does not fall from the tree if God does not allow it, and when the time comes, there is nothing to stop the pregnancy from happening.
Faith, focus, strength and a lot of courage! They are very efficient weapons against the fear of not being able to get pregnant! Have a support here at Changing Diapers whenever you need it!
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.