Oh I can’t get enough of saying how frustrating it is to see everybody, everybody (even the boring cousin or sister-in-law) getting pregnant and we don’t… The worst thing is that we get so attached to symptoms that we end up hurting ourselves more because of it . When the will knocks at the door, there is nothing to do, it is to let it happen. But what about when it doesn’t?
One of the worst things that a tentant can witness is a pregnant woman making light of her pregnancy. A beautiful example was of a girl desperate for a Citotec, right in a place where people talked about wanting to get pregnant and not being able to. For the unsuspecting, this medication causes uterine contractions and expels the fetus (abortion). Now tell me, why does a creature like this get pregnant and who wants a baby so bad can’t? There’s no explanation! The simple fact of not wanting to get pregnant already works. Wanting so much, but so much can generate anguish, and distress and anxiety end up becoming factors that influence the pregnancy not to happen. So, whose fault is this?
The universe plays bad games with us, because right in those moments of greatest fragility, it was that the pregnant women of the world seemed to jump right in front of my eyes! It was on the street, in the restaurant, in the office, in the neighborhood. It was a festival of bellies that I had never seen in my life! Big, small, pointy and even twins and me? I also wanted to sport a beautiful big belly on the street, show my dream come true for everyone!
I felt wronged, abandoned and less important in the eyes of God. Why didn’t he send my dream baby? What had I done wrong to not get pregnant? The fact is that many get pregnant “unintentionally” and it really killed me inside and out. He was the most wronged person in life that I knew.
Injustices aside, in the end I realized why this phenomenon happened. When we are not trying to conceive, we do not notice the change in the world around us, especially when we work, study and live a life full of daily tasks and obligations. From the moment that motherhood knocks on the door, the world turns upside down. The reality is different and even looks like a parallel universe of science fiction films! The problem is to learn to swallow these frogs that appear along the way.
In fact, relatives and friends also do not cooperate saw. Many keep asking and asking when their shoot will come. Most of the time they don’t realize that this is a very delicate subject and that you would rather cut a basket full of onions than talk about it with someone. You know that most of the time that someone will spread it to everyone who wants to be a mother and can’t get pregnant. After all, if it is to cry it is for a good cause. Let’s season the next day’s food with these onions and from the opinions nothing good is taken away, is it? As my mother says: advice is not given, it is borrowed.
How to Deal With This Feeling of Leaving the World?
Locking yourself up at home is not the best solution, neither does telling the seven winds that you want to have a baby without success (for now). But on more delicate days, it is really better to isolate the subject and stop thinking about it for a while. Although it is too difficult to get out of your head, some measures can be taken, such as not attending all groups of Facebook users, or even looking for other interests. This will help at least on days when we feel more wronged by life than normal.
Chatting with someone also helps ! Venting with a trusted friend makes a difference in reporting your frustration at following the pregnancy of someone who didn’t want to be a mother and yet, yes, she did. I think the main guidance that can be given at this moment is: Prayer! She takes this weight and anguish off her chest. If you lack a trusted friend, let it go with God. He will listen to your prayers carefully and will certainly give you the comfort you expect. Remember: it is not that you are not worthy. It’s just that your time has not yet come. Give your way into the hands of God, ask for guidance that everything else he will do.
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.