Super sweet and with a captivating smile! This is my definition of today’s guest for an interview here at TF. Daniele, or Dani Vedovatto as she is known on YouTube, started her channel telling a little in her videos about the life of a temptress. Now as an ex-tentant, she talks about her routine as a pregnant woman and various tips. This is a full plate for those who like excellent content and with a charismatic figure! Welcome Dani, João and Baby Vedovatto!
Changing Diapers: Tell us a little about yourself, how long you’ve been trying, what you do with your life (a little about your husband too).
Dani: My name is Daniele, I’m 27 years old, I’m a lawyer, married to João and I have two dogs that I love very much, Malu and Luma. João and I started dating when I was 16 and he was 21. We always knew that one day we would be parents, but we wanted this to happen in the most planned way possible. João is a computer technician and works in the city and I opened my office two years ago.
Although we wanted a baby for a long time, it was in 2014 that I really felt that desire. So, I started planning my pregnancy for 2015. At the end of 2014 I did the preconception exams, started taking folic acid and finished the last contraceptive pack in December, all without telling anyone, not even the João (he always wanted to be a father). In my plans, by March at the latest I would be pregnant. However, God’s plans for our lives are sometimes a little different.
In the second cycle of frustrated attempts , I was very shaken by one more negative and I told João and my family. This was very important, as it became less distressing to continue trying with their support. In the third cycle of attempts I suffered a miscarriage, without even knowing that I was pregnant. I didn’t have any menstrual delays. I just found many bleeding strange during the menstrual cycle, I decided to do a pharmacy test and the result was positive. As per the doctor’s guidance, I performed three quantitative HCG Betas, and the results were decreasing over the days, which made us sure that, in fact, I had a spontaneous abortion. I was very sad in those weeks, but I overcame trying to look on the bright side, and I thanked her for not having happened with more time of pregnancy (I know that it happens with many women, mainly until the 12th week of pregnancy).
After this sad fact, my doctor asked me to stay three months without trying to get pregnant. I was very upset about it too, as my dream would be postponed. On the other hand, I was aware that my body needed this time and I respected medical advice. In June 2015 I was finally able to return to the attempts. My positive arrived on 07/16/2015 (pharmacy test), with confirmation on 07/18/2015 through Beta HCG. In this video below I tell you how I discovered pregnancy and what I did in the cycle of my long-awaited positive.
Changing Diapers: How did the YouTube channel come about?
Dani: In January 2013 my brother Gustavo did an exchange in Canada and created a channel to tell the experience. For this, my parents bought a camera, microphone, tripod … It was at that time that I learned about the possibility of having a channel on YouTube. However, I started to follow only my brother’s channel. In 2014, when the desire to become a mother aroused me, I looked for many ideas on YouTube on how to tell my husband about the pregnancy. It was there that I came to know the channels of the girls who shared the whole experience of pregnancy, childbirth, motherhood. I remember that one of the first ones I watched was the birth of Baby V. From then on, following the girls on YouTube became routine.
I kept watching and dreaming about the day that all this would happen to us. Of course, I ended up discovering makeup channels, entertainment, etc. But my favorites are still the maternity channels . Since then my interest in making a channel on YouTube has arisen, as I have always liked cameras and, above all, I thought that my experience could help other girls, just as the other channels started to help me. As I always liked to know the experiences of the tempting, pregnant women and moms, I started to get inspired to create my channel.
That’s how a year ago (in October 2014), with the camera, microphone and tripod initially used by my brother, I made my first video for YouTube. At first, I did not address issues related to motherhood, as I did not feel prepared to share something as personal as the attempts. I started talking about subjects related to home, pets, etc. And in late June 2015, when I didn’t know about the pregnancy, my first video about the attempts was aired . Since then, my pregnancy has been part of the topics covered in the channel and I intend to continue after the baby is born. I have made many virtual friendships with girls who identify with me and my story. I believe that my goal with the channel is being achieved with every commentor message I get. This is very rewarding and motivates me to continue sharing my experiences on YouTube.
Changing Diapers: How did you know your husband and how was the decision to get pregnant?
Dani: João is from Laranjeiras do Sul (PR), the city where my father’s family resides. It was because of that that in the summer of 2004 we met and soon engaged a courtship, lol. As I live in Nova Erechim (SC), we dated at a distance for three years! During that time, our relationship matured and in 2007 João finally moved to my city, as he passed the Municipality competition. In the video where I tell João about the pregnancy, we talked about the years and facts that marked our relationship.
Regarding the decision to get pregnant, I think I ended up answering question 1, lol. But in summary, it was in 2014 that I started to feel the desire to increase our family and, thus, I started planning my pregnancy for the year 2015. There is a video I talked about how I made this decision.
Changing Diapers: How did you suspect your positive? (How was your positive)
Dani: I was always one of those who does the pharmacy test even before the menstrual delay, lol. My positive cycle started on 6/1/2015. My last cycles had been 26, 28 and 32 days. So, I started to consider menstrual delay after the 30th day. About 8 days late, on 8/7/2015, I did a pharmacy test, which was negative! I was very disappointed, because I started to think that there was something wrong with my body, because my cycle had never been so long. I thought to myself: I will wait another week; if it is negative, I go to the doctor to find out why she is so late. Then on 07/16/2015 I repeated the pharmacy test without much hope, imagining that only a streak would appear again. So much so that I didn’t even film the test from the beginning. I turned on the camera when my eyes started to see the second stripe! That same day I collected the blood and the confirmation of the pregnancy, through the quantitative Beta HCG, arrived on 07/18/2015. Much joy! This moment is recorded in this video:
Changing Diapers: What was the reaction that the husband had when receiving the big news?
Dani: I always wanted to tell João about the pregnancy in a special way. He was very touched! I did not know how to act in the face of so much emotion. We didn’t know whether to laugh or cry because we knew that a little heart was beating inside me. It was very cool! This moment is recorded in this video:
After I told João, we still did a little surprise for my parents and my brother. The moment when we tell my parents is also recorded in a video on the channel.
Changing Diapers: Did you have a fertility problem? Did you ever do tests to investigate?
Dani: No, I never had any fertility problems. Even after the miscarriage, I did a series of tests and none showed any problems.
Changing Diapers: Do you idealize childbirth by any specific way? How do you deal with the possibility of a cesarean section?
Dani: Look, before I got pregnant I always thought I would have a cesarean delivery, because it was like that with my mother and also because of misinformation. However, since I got pregnant I have read and watched a lot about it. With the support of my obstetrician, I have idealized a normal birth. Right now, I continue to mature the idea of normal childbirth, because I believe that I, like all women, have the ability to give birth. If my body allows it, it will be so. On the other hand, if something happens that makes normal delivery unfeasible, I will have a caesarean without guilt, because I have full confidence in my obstetrician and I am sure that she will do the best for my health and that of my baby.
Changing Diapers: What is the biggest difficulty of being tempted? What would you do differently?
Dani: Surely the biggest difficulty for me was anxiety. Each cycle was an eternity. What I would try to do differently is not to do countless tests even before the menstrual delay
Changing Diapers: What’s the best thing about being tempting? What would never change?
Dani: I believe that the best thing about being tempted is the possibility of planning your future pregnancy to the fullest. In addition, during the process of trying, I acquired a lot of knowledge about fertility and the functioning of my own body by reading articles and blogs and watching YouTube channels. Today I understand that the trial period, although difficult, is part of an entire process. The positive points I mentioned are very important and therefore I would not change them.
Changing Diapers: What do you expect from motherhood?
Dani: I dreamed and waited a lot for this moment, so when I have my baby in my arms, I am sure that I will feel like a complete woman experiencing the fullest moment of life. In short, this is what I hope, and I will do my best to make my child feel all the love that we have already dedicated to him / her, because what I want most is for him / her to grow up healthy in a home where I find support and security, just as it was provided by my parents.
Changing Diapers: A message for anyone trying to be a mom like you
Dani: Girls, what I can say is that you have the patience to wait and understand that everything will happen in the time that God has prepared for each one. It may take a little longer than you planned, but never stop believing and fighting for the pregnancy you so desire. When you least expect it, God will send a little angel in your life, and the love you will feel will make up for all the waiting time, anguish and uncertainty. Kisses in the heart.
Meet Dani’s Channel
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.