Pregnancy alone is already full of emotions, feelings of ups and downs, mood swings, easy crying, etc. When it is not planned by a couple, time is taking charge and the desire is transformed and being accepted and well expected in most cases. When pregnancy occurs in women who really did not think about this hypothesis, it ends up being seen as a problem, as something that came to disrupt the plans, dreams of career and study, in short, it is unwanted … what to do now with the result of positive in the hands?
The lack of family support and a partner ends up leading some women to opt for abortion, which exists and we all know that it is illegal, which unfortunately is very dangerous, precisely because it is criminal !! And that ends up being an immediate solution to the problem, and that usually causes pain, suffering and regret after the act, precisely because it is culturally treated as a taboo!
There are also those who decide to hide the pregnancy for as long as possible, often denying themselves the existence of a little being in the belly, does not do prenatal care, does not talk about it and does not accept the bodily changes that the month they become more prominent. The psychic-affective damages in these cases can be great, since studies increasingly point out that the baby perceives maternal emotions in the womb and a baby rejected since pregnancy will carry these feelings with him, without understanding why he feels them, besides the mother / baby bonding, breastfeeding and attachment may also be impaired due to these feelings during pregnancy.
I usually say that the best option is to accept and live this moment as an opportunity to recognize and reevaluate your relationships with your parents, your partner and with yourself and from there develop and allow yourself to feel what this moment presents for you. woman and tune in to the baby who is dependent on her womb.
I do not say it will be easy, but with anxiety control, fears you will achieve! I recommend specialized prenatal care and therapy to better deal with this moment, as this entire pregnancy-puerperal period (which occurs throughout pregnancy until the end of the puerperium, basically the baby’s first year) is a delicate phase for the woman’s psyche, thus needing support, attention, care and affection, so that her and the baby’s well-being prevails throughout this process, helping with healthy bonding and acceptance !!
By Ariela Malaquias
Clinical Psychologist of pregnant women, pregnant women, mothers / babies, couples and families.
Non blog author: Maternal Psycho
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.