When the woman’s biological clock strikes and she feels it is time to have a baby, it is truly a call from nature. Some women on their own are already born with more maternal instincts than others, but on the whole, we are very maternal. This even when they are small, as we are encouraged to play with dolls and houses because it is already a way of training for future children. And the men?
How they are in such a feminine environment that many times the mothers themselves unconsciously raise around their children. This way of educating kind of excludes them from this very special part of life. Active participation in the routine of the house, chores and so on. Then the boys grow up, get married and when your wife’s biological clock strikes and she wants to have children, what happens? They get scared! Men are like big kids and I don’t forget my husband’s wide eyes when the test came back positive!
Usually we mothers, raise our daughters to be good mothers and wives, and how are the children? I’m not a psychologist, but I’ve read a lot about it, how to integrate the men of my life in this journey so incredible that it is pregnancy and the world of children and even domestic why not? Some men have a little more of that sharp side and others have a little more stamina, but I think it may be his personality that allows it or not. It may be that you have a greater affinity with these issues, and the real problem starts when one wants to form a family and the other does not … Then friend, it complicates a lot! Sometimes such a beautiful dream of motherhood becomes a nightmare, not for the baby but for the situation itself that can become untenable.
Getting pregnant with your husband, boyfriend or partner without the two of you having complete agreement about it can sometimes (sometimes even) get out of control and end up bad. Even because the woman becomes a mother when she decides to get pregnant and in most cases the man becomes a father when the baby is born, hence the difficulty in understanding the female feeling. I’m not criticizing anyone for God’s sake! Even because each one owns his destiny, but we know that there are cases like this, of pregnancies planned only by women. Then the marriage or the relationship can be shaken by the change in behavior of the partner. Of course, the vast majority become great parents and if so, good husbands but there is also the other side of the coin.
Real Facts and Feeling of Betrayal
I met a girl who dated for 10 years, and when she decided to get pregnant, she did it and that’s it! She left the pill and even though she knew her boyfriend was against it and got pregnant. The result of that decision? It was the breakdown of the relationship and hurt of both parties. Today he is a father present in the child’s life, but the atmosphere between the ex couple is not the best. And make no mistake, the child feels the bad climate between them very much and I think it may not be healthy for them in the future, unfortunately … In my opinion a child must have a male or even female figure, because the opposite happens too. The ideal is to have the love of father and mother, even if it is only from the heart and not from the blood. Not to mention the structure that a child requires, both material and emotional from parents.
And when does it happen without even wanting to? I really think it is worth sitting and talking about it, even if the time is not so opportune, a child is a gift from God. But even today there are those who do not think so and it is a pity because there is no greater love. Talking about it will bring less remorse if something goes wrong and guilt can take over. But if you are on the team that still doesn’t have a baby and your boyfriend, husband and / or partner don’t want to have children, or at least not yet the answer to that, the answer is a lot of talk. Sometimes it is necessary for the woman to let her watch wait a little longer. There is no right moment and no recipe ready to have children, the important thing is that you receive it with open arms and with much love and remember that dialogue is the soul of each and every relationship.
See also: Report of a Single Father – Fred
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.