Affective bonds are bonds of affection that are built over the course of life . The first bonds of affection usually created are between mothers, fathers and children. The family is the first place where affective and strongest bonds are created, which will last for a lifetime.
Attachment and affective bonds are part of the important points in the life of any human being. They are created naturally, without any effort and are usually built based on the reciprocity of feelings.
Affective Ties and Child Development
Focusing on a child’s physical and emotional development, the bonds of affective bonds interfere very strongly. Since they are babies they need a lot of attention and care with firmness and love, which goes beyond obligations. They need to feel safe and welcomed to overcome each phase and discovery of their life.
Nobody knows a child like the parents, so strengthening this bond and affective bonds every day, showered with a lot of love, attention and affection is essential . Every affective bond is fed through trust, daily care, attention and especially affection. Detach yourself from the judgmental eyes and always look like eyes of love.
The parents’ biggest mistake is to allow affective bonds to be shaken over the years . All the attention given in the baby’s phase is lost with the child’s growth. The place where the child’s safe haven should be, where trust was above all else, begins to be lost.
Usually in the adolescence phase , a complicated phase for any human being , parents tend to experience greater difficulty in their relationship with the young person, who in turn also distances himself. It seems that the emotional bonds are totally shaken in this phase and so important values of the family end up being lost at that moment, or at least it seems that they were lost.
That is why it is so important to always nurture these bonds, adjust mistakes and try to correct and align what is outside of what was normal in the family. The affective bonds over the years are strengthened through trust and presence, and it is necessary as any relationship to take care to maintain it.
Childhood is filled with many changes and daily transitions and with them traumatic situations can occur that make marks for life. Situations within the family, an episode witnessed on the street, separation from parents, physical or verbal aggression and even violence of all kinds.
Childhood experiences are what will provide good stories, experiences and will shape what the child will be in the future. Everything that is experienced in childhood will actively contribute to the development of personality, which will determine important choices for life.
Childhood traumas can reach development and make profound marks on a child’s character, such as:
Trauma can directly affect the safety of the child’s personality. Low self-esteem problems are observed in children who have suffered childhood trauma. They often develop difficulty in the relationship, have a distorted view of themselves and the feeling that they will never be good enough to do any activity.
It is very important that children who have suffered trauma, have adequate psychological support, in addition to family support and care. The earlier the trauma is accompanied, the less likely it is that the child will develop problems with low self-esteem.
Children who have suffered severe trauma and which completely affect the psychological, such as cases of sexual abuse, physical and psychological abuse, totally affect the way they relate to others, in addition to their behavior with the world.
Distrust with others, insecurity and fear of relating to new people is one of the most serious problems. But it can be solved with psychological counseling.
Fear of public speaking
Depending on the type of trauma, usually related to public humiliation, the child develops fear of speaking in public. He has a lot of difficulty in expressing himself, talking in groups even if small and may have difficulties in interpersonal relationships throughout his life, also affecting in the future in the profession.
Trauma occurs due to the child’s or even adult’s inability to overcome certain events in their life. But any and all types of trauma can and should be treated through treatments with trauma specialists, usually psychologists and therapists.
Some children and young people, victims of severe trauma and intense frames of fear, can adapt and recover in an incredible way. And this recovery can vary according to the maturity of the psychic , which in some cases can occur early in children.
The treatment process is not at all easy and obviously does not work any miracles. But with the support of a trained professional, the results will come. Another method for treating alternative trauma is hypnosis.
Through hypnosis sessions many patients were able to have a different view of the problem, overcoming trauma and managing to get their lives completely healed.
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My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.