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I say: there is nothing better than being a mother! But despite dreaming about motherhood, I didn’t know that there would be so many obstacles and why not say problems regarding this condition. Being a mother besides being a magician has some dramatic moments. Not that they are the end of the world, to the point of taking away from you or any other woman the desire to have a baby, but these mother things can make any woman with hair stand on end! There are at least 100 things that change in the life of a new mother or during life and that are not listed for those who intend to enter this journey. So I will talk about the inconveniences for a woman who becomes a mother and also what changes in this new and emotional life.
Maternity
There are actually 11, you can addict to so much love!
1- For me, the pressure for pregnancy was one of the first problems that arose on this journey as a mother. Worse, the pressure came from me! I would never have imagined that wanting so much to be a mother could bring some problems like uncontrolled anxiety and even a hint of depression for wanting something so much that was beyond my reach. Affliction that you really want to get pregnant and can’t do it no matter how you do it, it can be distressing and cause strong emotions even before you get pregnant. Being a mother is gestating even before the positive comes! We already love this baby so much without even knowing that he is on his way.
Pregnancy
2- After the positive dream, I thought that the worries would end! But you know how these mother things are… When I got pregnant for the first time, nobody ever told me that I would feel pain during pregnancy. And they are not terrible pains of squirming, but they are quite uncomfortable. Pain in the bottom of the belly, cramps, pressure that falls, nausea, nausea, sore breasts and even weight loss worried and bothered me! 7-headed bug for a new mom.
3- During pregnancy I also realized that not everything is flowers, because the nights became more and more difficult. Rest? What is that? I slept practically sitting! With the pregnancy advancing, I had no legal position to sleep. From the belly to the right the baby was kicking, with the belly to the right it was not cool, the belly was missing the air… What a thing, I wanted to sleep and I couldn’t! And look what a lot of people said to me, my daughter sleeps! You’ll miss it when the baby is born, but where did I get it from?
4- Gases, vomiting, sleep and also dizziness … This part everyone talks about, but it is always good to reinforce that these are mother things that bother you most at this stage … The first 16 weeks can be the worst in a person’s life. Imagine feeling bad every day without exception.
5- The desire to eat is much greater than power and also what the body can handle. Around the 20th week, which is when your appetite comes back with everything, you can’t even sit and eat a plate of rice and beans and their side dishes without feeling overwhelmed. Weight gain also has to be controlled and this can become a nightmare for some women, as not all of them manage to gain just 1 kilo per month of pregnancy. The worry starts when the recommended 12 kilos are over and then the doctor’s scolding that comes with the pregnancy can come with everything!
Post childbirth
6 – Nobody ever told me that we feel like garbage after giving birth. In spite of being full and happy, a new-mother parturient has in her first days after giving birth a “Q” of exhaustion and also of “despair”. Getting used to the new routine, with the new life is a very exhausting and somewhat delicate and complicated task. Even more with so many guesses to do this, or do that, give this or that to the baby. A new mother suffers a lot.
7- Sore and “burning” breasts. Do you think breastfeeding is for anyone? When we have not yet gone through the experience, we think that it is enough to put the baby to the breast and he will do the rest, right? No no no … Actually there is a special way for the baby to take the breast, the shape of the correct handle, the position to breastfeed , the breast too full, too empty, just colostrum, endless crying of the newborn and despair of a mother who really wants to breastfeed but cannot for some reason. Funny that we feel hot, we even seem to sweat beyond normal. The feeling I had was that even after taking a shower, it was dirty as on a very hot summer day.
The most recurrent is the grip of the beak, often incorrect and without guidance 24 hours a day as in the maternity ward. Breastfeeding stings, hurts, itches and sometimes even bleeds! That’s why I tell you with all the letters, PREPARE YOUR BREASTS to breastfeed! That is to say: Sunbathe in the breasts during pregnancy , prepare as a base the rubbing with a soft sponge during the bath and forget the ointments.
8- In addition, we can also say that the world around may not make it that easy with endless visits and visits and many relatives and friends from the baby’s first day at home. It is not that receiving a visit is bad, far from it, but motherly things, such as the first days at home, are little valued.
9- Crying is the word of the postpartum people! You know that the feelings are all very high, everything seems very sad. Despite the happy moment, we tend to cry and cry, if we feel unable to take care of the baby and sad. But all of this is caused by hormones. It is important to say that this feeling should be in a short period, if it extends for more than 30 days, it is better to see a doctor because you may be suffering from postpartum depression. Baby blues , pleasure my name is mom!
10- Birth is an incredible moment! I didn’t expect these motherly things to be so intense. I had an idea from what I heard from the mothers around me and even from my own mother who said: you will only know what it is like when you have your children. In addition to birth, the enormous responsibility that comes with children to care, protect, meet all needs and EDUCATE in the best possible way, becomes the priority of life! Farewell long walks with no time to return, farewell romantic nights with no worries that someone will knock on the door in the middle of the night. Goodbye tranquility at night, which mother never raised more than 2x at night to see if everything is fine with her son even if he is over 10 years old? Goodbye long baths and sessions of creams and perfumes all over the body. At most you will have 5 minutes of bath and still with the concern that the baby will wake up. Give one even more for the heels, because, even in pregnancy you will have to abandon them.
11- This eleventh is a bonus. Get ready for strong emotions! Being a mother will give you emotions that you have never experienced or will experience in any other area of your life! Being a mother is addictive, these motherly things cause ecstasy and a greater warning: the smell of your child will addict you in a way that will never come back! Motherhood is so good that you can’t compare, but it gives you a little fear!
If after reading all of this you still want to be a mother, then my daughter, play! All cons are outweighed by the pros that this life brings! Do you agree or disagree with something? Leave it in the comments and participate!
See also: Being a Mother for the First Time – Problems We Can Find on the Way
My name is Dr. Alexis Hart I am 38 years old, I am the mother of 3 beautiful children! Different ages, different phases 16 years, 12 years and 7 years. In love with motherhood since always, I found it difficult to make my dreams come true, and also some more after I was already a mother.
Since I imagined myself as a mother, in my thoughts everything seemed to be much easier and simpler than it really was, I expected to get pregnant as soon as I wished, but it wasn’t that simple. The first pregnancy was smooth, but my daughter’s birth was very troubled. Joana was born in 2002 with a weight of 2930kg and 45cm, from a very peaceful cesarean delivery but she had already been born with congenital pneumonia due to a broken bag not treated with antibiotics even before delivery.